Work-life balance – have we got it all wrong?

The term “work-life balance” is so common that it has lost its meaning. 

Ask a bunch of people what work-life balance is for them, and they all will come with a different meaning. 

Balance means a state of equilibrium, a condition where everything is still and in equal proportion. 

Have you ever had a day when either your work or your life was still? Do you spend your time in equal proportion on work and life?

This suggestion of work-life balance is based on the assumption that work is bad, and life is good; spend more time on life and less time on work, and you will have a happy life. 

That is a wrong assumption.

Let me make a case for work.

Work is a major part of our lives. It defines us. It provides intellectual stimulation, helps us learn, expresses ourselves, pays for our bills, and helps us socialize and collaborate with other people. 

When done for thirty to forty years of our lives, it becomes a habit. 

Work is essential for a fulfilling life. Without it, life is purposeless, uninspiring, and dull.

But then we are expected to be at work 24/7. 

There are no defined working hours. 

Technological advancement means even when we are not physically at work, work can reach us. 

If you can’t get out of range, you are not really away from work. It is very easy for your work to claim demands on your time, particularly your free time. 

The demand for our time has been increasing with other technological advances such as social media.

Humans are not evolving at the pace of technological advances. 

Evolution works at a very slow pace. Big changes take hundreds of generations. 

Humans were designed for low attention spans so that we can scan our environment and keep ourselves safe. 

We were also designed to rest and take it easy to conserve our energy. But we are expected to be productive for several hours of the day. 

Evolution or rather lack of evolution is the reason why we are struggling to fit the huge demands of work into our lives. We are trying to get ourselves to do something very hard for us.

It changes the scale of our troubles. Although so often it seems incredibly personal that one fails to combine work harmoniously with family life or with exercise or with maintaining old friendships, the charge should not really be laid primarily against oneself. The fault lies with something much larger than our own individual failings (real though those are). It lies with where we are in history, with the nature of the economy and in the slow pace of evolution.

The Book of Life

Then there is this argument:

Our brain is funny. Its primary function is to keep us safe from danger. It has us believe that in order to insulate us from such, we must work harder, meaner, and longer to stay ahead of potential competitors who can rip the rug out from under us at any moment. But the reality is, when we are well rested and reflective rather than reactive, we put ourselves in a better place; a place that is well insulated from the ultimate danger of meaningless or, even worse, toxic, self-destructive work.”

Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life

Poet and Philosopher David Whyte call “work/life balance” a “phrase that often becomes a lash with which we punish ourselves.” 

In his new book The Three Marriages: Reimagining Work, Self, and Relationship, he offers an emboldening way out of this cultural trap.

The current understanding of work-life balance is too simplistic. People find it hard to balance work with family, family with self, because it might not be a question of balance. Some other dynamic is in play, something to do with a very human attempt at happiness that does not quantify different parts of life and then set them against one another. We are collectively exhausted because of our inability to hold competing parts of ourselves together in a more integrated way.

[…]

Work, like marriage, is a place you can lose yourself more easily perhaps than finding yourself. It is a place full of powerful undercurrents, a place to find our selves, but also, a place to drown, losing all sense of our own voice, our own contribution and conversation.

[…]

Good work like a good marriage needs a dedication to something larger than our own detailed, everyday needs; good work asks for promises to something intuited or imagined that is larger than our present understanding of it. We may not have an arranged ceremony at the altar to ritualize our dedication to work, but many of us can remember a specific moment when we realized we were made for a certain work, a certain career or a certain future: a moment when we held our hand in a fist and made unspoken vows to what we had just glimpsed.

David Whyte in The Three Marriages: Reimagining Work, Self and Relationship

The truth is there will always be unbalanced in work and life. 

There will be times (days or months or years) when work will be your number one priority, and there will be a time when life will take precedence over your work. 

Your ability to identify those times and maturity to be flexible will determine the “balance” in your life. Your time and energy shift based on the rotating demands of each area of your life.

“There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.” — Alain de Botton.

When we start losing ourselves in work, when we see ourselves as an extension of work and have no identity left outside of work, we have a problem. 

Too many people fell prey to ‘work is life’ syndrome and pay a heavy price when work is no longer there.

Become a “scenius” rather than a genius

Yesterday, in my post how to be an artist, I talked about being a “scenius” rather than a genius. “Scenius is a term invented by an English musician, record producer, and visual artist Brian Eno. Another word for “scenius” is “communal genius.” The word conveys the extreme creativity that a group, place or “scene” can occasionally generate. His actual definition is:

“Scenius stands for the intelligence and the intuition of a whole cultural scene. It is the communal form of the concept of genius.

Individuals immersed in a productive “scenius” blossom and produce their best work. When buoyed by scenius, you act like a genius. Your like-minded peers and the entire environment inspire you.” – Brian Eno

A page about “scenius” from Austin Kleon’s Show Your Work

Today I am going to introduce to you such a “scenius,” a group started by an ordinary man, on a single idea, working part-time which now has become a community of thousands even when the term “scenius” was not even invented.

His name is Darren Rowse and he is a blogger, speaker, consultant and founder of several blogs and blog networks, including b5media, ProBlogger and digital photography school.

His two main blogs Digital Photography School, which features photography tips, and ProBlogger, which features tips on blogging, get around 85,000–100,000 page views a day and over $20,000 in total ad revenue a month. Rowse was named in the Forbes Web Celebrity List in 2007.

In 2008, Rowse co-authored the book ‘ProBlogger: Secrets for Blogging Your Way to a Six-Figure Income’ (Wiley) and founded TwiTip—a blog dedicated to Twitter tips. Rowse is co-founder of the Third Tribe and founder of the Problogger Paid community.

In May 2009, ProBlogger was listed as number two on Technorati‘s most favorite blogs and number 40 on the most linked blog.

Why is Darren Rowse so important?

Because he saw a need in the early days of blogging and tried to fill it with a simple blog. A blog on how to blog. His story is remarkable. He writes:

“Back in November of 2002 when I first hit ‘publish’ on my original (and short-lived) Blogspot Blog I did so believing that this ‘blogging thing’, which I’d only just heard of, would be a bit of fun. I started for a number of reasons but in short, it was curiosity and the hope of a new hobby and perhaps some new connections that drew me to it. At the time I was working three jobs.” – Darren in PROBLOGGER

Blogging for a long time was a hobby for Darren and a way to connect with others. His blog was quite popular in his church circles at that time but hosting and ISP costs were starting to escalate. He needed to make money from his blog.

After about a year of blogging, he accidentally started Digital Photography Blog and discovered AdSense and the Amazon Affiliate program. He quickly realized that his hopes to pay for his ISP and hosting costs and perhaps a professionally designed blog can come true. This was not because he had put AdSense on any blog but because by then he had several thousand readers per day.

Blogging was still a hobby for Darren but he has started spending two days on it. It was, in fact, more than two days because he worked late every night to keep things moving. He started doing more than one post per day for his Digital Photography Blog. His work paid off because in May 2004 his earnings hit $32 per day and by the end of June 2004 he’d broken $1000 in a month for the first time and was bringing in $48 per day. He is now making a seven-figure income from his blogs, networks, and courses.

It is important to know at this time Darren was not working as a genius, he was a “scenius.” He knew nothing about digital photography or blogging. He was learning and teaching at the same time. He happened to be at a “scene” where both digital photography and blogging were new, Darren hooked in with the early learners and shared what he learned with his readers. That created a community. A “scenius.”

He was a node in a network where he was relaying while contributing at the same time. His readers were nodes too, relaying and contributing at the same time.

Austin Kleon puts it in very simple terms: Genius is an egosystem, scenius is an ecosystem.

Austin Kleon Show Your Work

That is the message I want to give with this post. Not everybody can be a genius but everyone can be a “scenius.”

I took Darren’s 31 Days to a Better Blog course when I first started blogging in August and became a part of his “scenius.” There are other “scenius” I am part of from where I learn and contribute.

Are you a part of a “scenius”? Tell me about it.

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How to be an artist in the new age

In the past two days, I introduced you to two people who profoundly impacted me by changing my perception of what art is, and we all could be artists. Today I will introduce you to the third person who gave me actual know-how of being an artist.

If you have been reading my previous posts, he is no stranger. His name is Austin Kleon. He has written four books and calls himself “a writer who can draw.” However, I believe his most significant achievement is that he has cracked the code of how to “be” an artist. He shares that knowledge freely through his blog and his books. I have picked three of his insights that have impacted me the most to share with you.

1. Art is theft

Austin came to fame with his second book, How to Steal Like an Artist, in which he shared all the knowledge he gained about becoming an artist. He demonstrates how you could do it through the book. The whole book is based on lessons learned from other artists. The artists who encouraged to imitate, copy, and steal so that new artists could learn. That is how they learned.

“We want you to take from us. We want you, at first, to steal from us, because can’t steal. You will take what we give you and you will put it in your own voice and that is how you will find your voice. And that is how you begin. And then one day someone will steal from you.” – Francis Ford Coppola, Source: HOW TO STEAL LIKE AN ARTIST

“Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination. Devour old films, new films, music, books, paintings, photographs, poems, dreams, random conversations, architecture, bridges, street signs, trees, clouds, bodies of water, light, and shadows; select the only thing to steal from that speak directly to your soul. If you do this, your work (and theft) will be authentic.” – Jim Jarmusch Source: HOW TO STEAL LIKE AN ARTIST.

The mistake the new artists make is that they think they need to make something original. The experienced artist knows that nothing comes from nowhere. All creative work builds on what came before. The writer Jonathan Lethem has said that when people call something “original,” nine out of ten times they just don’t know the references or the original sources involved.

“Art is theft,” said Pablo Picasso.

“There is nothing new under the sun.” (Bible, Ecclesiastes 1:9)

Austin writes many people find this idea depressing, but it fills him with hope. French writer Andre Gide, “Everything that needs to be said has already been said, but since no one was listening, everything must be said again.”

This is a very reassuring and novel approach to invoke creativity. It takes away the pressure of being original and making something out of nothing. As Austin says, we can embrace influence instead of running away from it.

“What is originality? Undetected plagiarism.” – William Ralph Inge.

But there is a caveat. You can’t copy without giving attribution; it will hurt you badly.

You can imitate to learn, as imitation is the best-known way to learn any skill.

When you steal, you have a responsibility to turn it into something better or at least different. As the famous poet T. S. Eliot puts it:

“Immature poets imitate; mature poets steal; bad poets deface what they take, and good poets make it into something better, or at least something different. The good poet welds his theft into a whole of feeling which is unique, utterly different from that from which it was torn.” – T. S. Elliot

Show Your Work

The second most important thing you ought to know to be an artist other than to “produce good work” is to “share your work.”

It used to be very hard to share your work ten years ago or so. You have to hold exhibitions; you have to find a publisher to publish your book. But nowadays it is very easy. The Internet has provided a platform for anyone who wants to share their work.

When you open up your process and invite people in, you learn. You don’t put yourself online only because you have something to say – you can put yourself online to find something to say. The internet can be more than just a resting place to publish your finished ideas – it can also be an incubator for ideas that aren’t fully formed, a birthing center for developing work that you haven’t started yet.

Austin Kloen How to Steal Like an Artist

Have nothing to share this how you can start, suggests Austin:

“Step 1: Wonder at something. Step 2: Invite others to wonder with your. You should wonder at things nobody else is wondering about. If everybody is wondering about apples; go wonder about oranges. The more open you are about sharing your passions, the closer people will feel to your work. Artist’s aren’t magicians. There is no plenty for revealing your secrets.

Be a Scenius

Most of the time, we think an artist is some sort of a “genius” who is born with special talents. This is a myth. This “lone genius myth” has dissuaded my promising artists from realizing their full potential.

If you believe in the lone genius myth, creativity is an antisocial act, performed by a few great figures – mostly dead men with names like Mozart, Einstein, or Picasso. The rest of us are left to stand around and gawk in awe at their achievements.

Austin Kleon Show Your Work

Austin introduces a healthier way of thinking about creativity, referred to by musician Brian Eno as “scenius.” A scenius is a group of creative individuals – artists, curators, thinkers, theorists, and other tastemakers – who make up an “ecology of talent” – who generate and nurture great ideas.

According to Austin, If we look back closely at history, many of the people who we think of as lone geniuses were actually part of “a whole scene of people who were supporting each other, looking at each other’s work, copying from each other, stealing ideas, and contributing ideas.”

Scenius doesn’t take away from the achievements of those great individuals; it just acknowledges that the good work isn’t created in a vacuum and that creativity is always, in some sense, a collaboration, the result of a mind connected to other minds.

“What is great about the idea of scenius,” writes Austin, “is that it makes room in the story of creativity for the rest of us: the people who don’t consider ourselves geniuses. It is not about how talented and how smart you are it is about what you have to contribute, the idea you can share, the quality of connections you can make, and conversations you start.”

If we can forget about the geniuses and concentrate on how we can nurture and contribute to a scenius we can lean and grow much faster. Internet is basically is a bunch of seniuses. Blogs, social media sites, email groups and discussion board forums are the platforms where people hang out and talk about things they care about and share ideas.

Needless to say, I am implementing many of Austin Kleon’s suggestions.

He has many more insights in his books How to Steal Like an Artist, Show Your Work, and Keep Going. Read them and listen to his talks on YouTube and TED talks.

Tomorrow I will introduce you to one such scenius that has helped me a great deal in starting this blog.

We are all artists

Yesterday I wrote about Seth Godin who made me understand what is art. Today I am going to reveal the identity of a man who told me that I am an artist too. I have never met him. I have only seen his art. And I read his book and that was all I needed. He helped me believe in myself, my own creativity and my own potential.

His name is Hugh Macleod. He is a cartoonist, marketing consultant, and a highly-regarded author, writing on the themes of innovation, creativity and motivation. His book “Ignore Everybody” began life on his popular marketing blog, gapingvoid.com, as an e-book. It was downloaded over 5 million times since being posted and enjoyed by readers all over the world. Re-imagined in print form, the book “Ignore Everybody” made the Wall Street Journal’s best sellers list.

An earlier version of the “Ignore Everybody” is available free as How to be Creative and it has been downloaded 4.5 million times and this was the book that introduced me to Hugh’s philosophy. The book has 26 chapters i.e. 26 pieces of advice. I selected three which made the most impact on me.

1. We are all born creative

Hugh’s simple argument is that we were all given a box of crayons in kindergarten. We all used them freely and had a lot of fun with them. Then what happened? We hit puberty. And they took away the crayons and gave us books on algebra:

Being suddenly hit years later with the creative bug is just a wee voice telling you, “I’d like my crayons back, please.

So you’ve got the itch to do something. Write a screenplay, start a painting, write a book, turn your recipe for fudge brownies into a proper business, whatever. You don’t know where the itch came from; it’s almost like it just arrived on your doorstop, uninvited. Until now you were quite happy holding down a real job, being a regular person… until now.

You don’t know if you’re any good or not, but you’d think you could be. And the idea terrifies you… You don’t know any publishers or agents or all these fancy-shmancy kind of folk…Heh. That is not your wee voice asking for crayons back. That’s your adult voice, your boring and tedious voice trying to find a way to get the wee voice to shut the hell up.

Your wee voice doesn’t want you to sell something. Your wee voice wants you to make something. There is a big difference.

Go ahead and make something. Make something really special. Make something amazing that will really blow the mind of anybody who sees it.

So you have to listen to your wee voice or it will die… taking a big chunk of you along with it.

They are only crayons. You didn’t fear them in kindergarten, why fear them now?

Hugh MacLeod in How to be Creative

2. Ignore Everybody

When we get an idea that holds us and doesn’t just go away, our first reaction is to run it past others. To get advise. To think about it logically. Do a feasibility study. But Hugh advice is to ignore everybody:

The more original your idea is, the less good advice other people will be able to give you.

You don’t know if your idea is any good the moment it’s created. Neither does anyone else. The most you can hope for is a strong gut feeling that it is. And trusting your feeling is not as easy as the optimist say it is. There’s a reason why feelings scare us.

Plus the big idea will change you. Your friends may love you, but they don’t want you to change. If you change, then their dynamic with you will also change. They like things the way they are, that’s how they love you – the way you are, not the way you may become.

Hugh Macleod in How to be Creative

It is so liberating to do your own thing. It is so liberating to do something where you don’t have to impress anybody. It is so liberating to feel complete sovereignty over your work. Hugh writes, “The sovereignty you have our work will inspire far more people than the actual content of it.”

3. Put the hours in

When Hugh first started with the cartoons on back-of-business-card-format, people thought he was nuts. He got asked a lot, “Your business card format is very simple. Aren’t you worried about somebody ripping it off?” His answer to them was “Only if they can draw more of them than me and better than me.” What gave his work its edge was a simple fact that he’d spent years drawing them. He had drawn thousands. That was tens of thousands of man-hours.

“Doing anything worthwhile takes forever. 90% of what separates successful people and the failed people is time, effort and stamina.

If somebody in your industry is more successful than you, it’s probably he works harder at it than you do. Sure, maybe he’s more inherently talented, more adept at networking, etc. but I don’t consider that an excuse. Over time, that advantage counts for less and less. Which is why the world is full of highly talented, network-savvy, failed mediocrities.

Put the hours in; do it for long enough and magical life-transforming things happen eventually.

Stamina is utterly important.  And stamina is only possible if managed well. People think all they need to do is endure one crazy, job-free creative burst and their dreams will come true. They are wrong. They are stupidly wrong.

Hugh MacLeod in How to be Creative

When we put the hours in, do it for long enough, magical and life-transforming things happen eventually. That is the promise Hugh makes.

I urge you to read his books How to be Creative and Ignore Everybody. They will answer most of your concerns and tackle head-on the fears which are stopping you from starting whatever it is you want to.

Tomorrow, I will introduce to you the man who inspired me the most. I owe, starting of this website and many other creative ventures I have started, to him.

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What is art?

I thought I knew what art was. It was the paintings, the sculptures, the drawings and the beautiful sometimes weird and abstract pieces they keep in museums and art galleries.

It was also something which students with no real potential studied in college and university. The bright kids study science and maths and law. Isn’t it? I mean who with 90% plus marks studied arts.

Then something weird happened. About two years ago (2017 to be exact), I came across the work of three men, which changed my whole perception of art. It was not that they appeared out of the blue like shooting stars and enlightened me. I was aware of them, at least one of them and was subscribing to his emails in 2012, but he made no sense to me so I stopped.

The man I am talking about is Seth Godin. And if you are anything like me in 2012, I am sure you wouldn’t have heard of him. You see in 2017, I learned there is a parallel universe and it is called Cyberworld. And in Cyberworld Seth Godin is God. Seth has written several books, has been a pioneer in online marketing and has been writing a blog for more than a decade without missing a day.

For years what he said didn’t make any sense to me because I was a nine-to-five employee with very little time for myself and with blinders on I went to work, came home cooked, cleaned and went to sleep unaware what was happening in the parallel universe. Then one day I realized I was not getting anywhere at work. That there is a creative side of me that needs expression but I had no clue how. That was when Seth Godin eventually started making sense to me.

Seth described a phenomenon that was happening on the planet earth. “The industrial age, the one that established our schooling, our workday, our economy, and our expectations, is dying. It’s dying faster than most of us expected, and it’s causing plenty of pain, indecision, and fear as it goes.”

He argued that the guaranteed jobs won’t be there for much longer and people need to be creative to survive in the information age which he calls the connection age. But more than that, life’s too short to spend it doing something that isn’t rewarding. So aim to thrive and not just survive. He went on saying:

“Creating art is a habit, one that we practice daily or hourly until we get good at it … Art isn’t about the rush of victory that comes from being picked. Nor does it involve compliance. Art in the post-industrial age is a lifelong habit, a stepwise process that incrementally allows us to create more art.”

He then explained what makes someone an artist:

I don’t think is has anything to do with a paintbrush. There are painters who follow the numbers, or paint billboards, or work in a small village in China, painting reproductions. These folks, while swell people, aren’t artists. On the other hand, Charlie Chaplin was an artist, beyond a doubt. So is Jonathan Ive, who designed the iPod. You can be an artist who works with oil paints or marble, sure. But there are artists who work with numbers, business models, and customer conversations. Art is about intent and communication, not substances.

An artist is someone who uses bravery, insight, creativity, and boldness to challenge the status quo. And an artist takes it personally.

That’s why Bob Dylan is an artist, but an anonymous corporate hack who dreams up Pop 40 hits on the other side of the glass is merely a marketer. That’s why Tony Hsieh, founder of Zappos, is an artist, while a boiler room of telemarketers is simply a scam.

Tom Peters, corporate gadfly and writer, is an artist, even though his readers are businesspeople. He’s an artist because he takes a stand, he takes the work personally, and he doesn’t care if someone disagrees. His art is part of him, and he feels compelled to share it with you because it’s important, not because he expects you to pay him for it.

Art isn’t only a painting. Art is anything that’s creative, passionate, and personal. And great art resonates with the viewer, not only with the creator.

Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient. The medium doesn’t matter. The intent does.

Art is a personal act of courage, something one human does that creates change in another.”

Seth Godin

Seth is an artist too. He has created movement, singlehandedly, to help people understand the need of the time and how to equip themselves to respond to it which benefits them and the economy and mankind.

I define art as having nothing at all to do with painting.

Art is a human act, a generous contribution, something that might not work, and it is intended to change the recipient for the better, often causing a connection to happen.

Five elements that are difficult to find and worth seeking out are – human, generosity, risky, change and connection.

You can be perfect or you can make art.

You can keep track of what you get in return, or you can make art.

You can enjoy the status quo, or you can make art. 

The most difficult part might be in choosing whether you want to make art at all, and committing to what it requires of you.

He then urges you not to wait but be. If you want to be a writer, start a blog and write; if you want to be an entrepreneur, start a business from your garage. Don’t wait to be picked up.

Our cultural instinct is to wait to get picked. To seek out the permission, authority and safety that come from a publisher … who says, “I pick you.” Once you reject that impulse and realize that no one is going to select you … then you can actually get to work … No one is going to pick you. Pick yourself.

He then tackles the question of why art?

“Because you can. Art is what it is to be human.” We human have been making art since the cave days.”

“Because you must,” he says. “The new connected economy demands it and will reward you for nothing else.”

Because art is scarce. Scarcity and abundance have been flipped. High-quality work is no longer scarce. Competence is no longer scarce, either. We have too many good choices – there’s an abundance of things to buy and people to hire. What is scarce is trust, connection and surprise. These are three elements in the work of the successful artist.

One kind of scarcity involves effort. You can put in only so many hours, sweat only so much. The employer pays for effort, because he can’t get effort he can count on for free. And the eager-beaver employee expands extra effort to make a mark but soon learns that it doesn’t scale.

Another kind of scarcity involves physical resources. Resources keep getting more scarce, because we’re running out of them.

The new, the third kind of scarcity is the emotional labour of art. The risk involved in digging deep to connect and surprise, the patience required to build trust, the guts necessary to say, “I made this” – these are all scarce and valuable. And they scale.

He describes what it means to make art.

“The joy of art is particularly sweet … because it carries with it the threat of rejection, of failure, and of missed connections. It’s precisely the high-wire act of “this might not work” that makes original art worth doing.”

I urge you to read his books and listen to his YouTube videos.

In tomorrow’s post, I will introduce you to the second person who changed my perception of art.

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Building a bliss station

I need a bliss station. The place where I can retreat from the world and do what I really want to do – read, write, draw, cut some pictures and make as much mess I want without having to clean it.

Follow your bliss, says Joseph Campbell in The Power of Myth. If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are — if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time.

Discerning one’s bliss, Campbell argues, requires what he calls “sacred space” — a space for uninterrupted reflection and unrushed creative work. He recommends that everybody should build a “bliss station” into which to root oneself:

You must have a room, or a certain hour or so a day, where you don’t know what was in the newspapers that morning, you don’t know who your friends are, you don’t know what you owe anybody, you don’t know what anybody owes to you. This is a place where you can simply experience and bring forth what you are and what you might be. This is the place of creative incubation. At first you may find that nothing happens there. But if you have a sacred place and use it, something eventually will happen.

Joseph Campbell in The Power of Myth

Yesterday, sitting in the front porch, reading Anne Dillard’s The Writing Life once again in the perfect winter sun, I came across a paragraph which I had underlined in my previous read:

I write this in the most recent of my many studies – a pine shed on Cape Cod. The pine lumber is unfinished inside the study; the pines outside are finished trees. I see the pines from my two windows. Nuthatches spiral around their long, coarse trunks. Sometimes in June a feeding colony of mixed warbles flies through the pines; the warblers make a racket that draws me out the door. The warblers drift loosely through the stiff pine branches, and I follow through the thin long grass between the trunks.

Annie Dillard in The Writing Life

I stop. I close my eyes and transport myself to Annie’s pine shed. I see a desk against the window looking out at the pine forest. I want that, I tell myself. I want a study of my own and a desk against the window. I get up and review all the rooms. Which one has the potential to be my bliss station?

Now that kids have left home I have four bedrooms to choose from. One of them is already a study, equipped with a table, a printer, and numerous filing cabinets. My husband lays claim on it, although he rarely uses it. I leave it alone. Both children’s bedrooms are overflowing with stuff they have left behind. Their storage area. Their claim on the rooms they will never come back to but will never let go of either. “Leave our rooms as they are,” they have instructed me. I move to the fourth room.

The fourth bedroom is the best of the lot. It has an ensuite which makes it a perfect guestroom. But it also has the best view of a row of pine trees almost touching the sky. In winter, the sun comes in through the window. This is it. I want to take out the spare bed and replace it with a big table.

I come back to the book, while my mind is still making plans – how can I get rid of almost new bed we bought a couple of years ago, where can I source a table from, how to get my husband to agree. I start reading the book and on the very next page Annie writes:

Appealing workplaces are to be avoided. One wants a room with no view, so imagination can meet memory in the dark. When I furnished this study seven years ago, I pushed the desk against a blank wall, so I could not see from either window.

Annie Dillard in The Writing Life

There it goes. All the excitement of having a perfect study. I still can do it but I know we need the room for guests, who come frequently and need the ensuite. “You can read in the space of a coffin, and you can write in the space of a tool shed meant for mowers and spades,” writes Annie. I go to the darkest room in the house, one with the least amount of distractions.

I push back my husband’s massive Apple computer to one side to make room for my laptop. I plonk a corkboard against the wall with my cuttings. I leave the ironing table unfolded to permanently obstruct the view from the window. Inch by inch I occupy the real estate in the filing cabinets. My “bliss station” is ready. It is cold and miserable here. I have installed a small heater to warm my feet. Next winter I might invest in UGG boots. This winter heater will have to do.

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