How to learn to write, when there is no teacher in sight

Last year, when the Caronavirus was still trapped in the lab, and the world was a safe place to travel, my husband and I went on an organized tour of Egypt, Turkey, and Jordan. A month-long trip was paid in advance; the final itinerary was mailed to us two weeks with the name of hotels, daily excursions, internal flight details all spelled out clearly.

Once there, we were met by the guides in each country who took care of everything. Each morning a bus picked us up (there were 25 of us on the trip), took us sightseeing, and deposited us back in the hotel after dinner.

Although we were not allowed to venture out on our own or eat at better places than the run-of-the-mill touristy restaurants, we didn’t have to worry about deciding what to see, how to get there, and how to beat the crowds to get the tickets to the historical landmarks.

This is what learning from teachers is like.

They plan the coursework; they give the instructions; they decide where to take you and how to get there. You follow. You get fully dependent on them. So when the time comes to be on your own, you don’t know how to cope.

That was what exactly happened to us. Everything went fine until we were exiting Egypt and going to Jordan. We were not told there was another country in between – Israel. We had to go through the immigration check, stand in line for three hours for cross-over, travel by bus for fifteen kilometers to get to the Jordan border, buy a visa, and stand in the queue again for an immigration check. Just for half a day, we were left to our resources, and we couldn’t cope.

When we want to learn something, usually, we enroll in a course.

We want to be spoon-fed just like we were in school or colleges. Even Universities follow the same pattern of set curriculum. We think the structured way of learning is the only way to learn. We think that because we haven’t tried the other way.

What is the other way?

Let’s imagine you land in a foreign country and want to explore the place by yourself. You pick up some brochures from the hotel, you search on the internet, you might buy the Lonely Planet guide, and you decide which places you are going to see. You figure out how to get there. You decide how much time you want to spend there. You may not cover the entire city, but you explore tiny increments and see all that you wanted to see in the time you have.

How does this analogy work for learning to write?

Writers used to learn to write on their own until recently, when cashing on the great demand colleges and universities have with courses and degrees in writing. Almost all universities now have a master’s degree in writing. Although they can provide the focus and structured curriculum, they could be expensive and time-consuming.

Many people take to writing at the later stage of their lives. It doesn’t make sense to university to get a degree when there are so many other resources available that don’t cost much and fit in your timetable.

Here are three resources that are enough to make you a proficient writer without a teacher.

1. Books, podcasts and videos

2. Discussion groups

3. Teaching others

All that you want to learn about writing is captured in books podcasts and videos.

You don’t need to go anywhere. Pick any topic you want to learn and research what books are available on it. Read reviews and pick two or three and start.

You can even start by reading blog posts and podcasts. Several established writers are writing beneficial articles on the art and craft of writing, and most of them are available for free. The beauty of articles is that they are shorter and can be read in a single sitting. They usually address one topic at a time and hence are very targeted.

The advantage of podcasts is that they save time. You can listen to them while cooking, exercising, or during the commute. Many podcasts have interviews with successful writers who freely share their techniques and learnings, something you may not pick up in a course.

But if you are learning by yourself, you’d have to take smaller steps.

Let’s say you want to tackle how to write short stories. You’d start with simple questions such as – what are short stories. How long are short-stories? How many characters could there be? How many events can there be? How much dialogue, exposition, and backstory can I use in there?

Then you would move on to more complex issues such as – what is common about different kinds of short stories. Where am I getting stuck? What is my approach writing them? Where does it not align with the kind of stories I want to write.

Usually by this time, when you can’t figure out answers by yourself, you feel stuck. That is when the discussion groups come in handy.

Discussion groups are a must to grow as a writer.

If you want to become a real writer, you have to be a member of a discussion group to get your work critiqued and provide feedback on other people’s writing. You will not only learn from receiving feedback but from providing feedback to others.

Sometimes you can’t locate what you are doing wrong in your writing because you are too close to it but immediately pick it up in other people’s work. Not only that, somehow you have a solution for them too, which is what you are looking for in your own work.

At that point you become a teacher yourself.

There is no better way to learn something than by teaching others.

When you learn with the intention to teach it to someone, your learning becomes more focused and intense. You want the concepts to be clear in your head so that you can explain them to others. You pay more attention. You associate new learning with your old learning and come up with better examples and analogies.

When you explain something to others, your subconscious is working on finding solutions where you are getting stuck.

It is no accident that most writers are teaching the craft to others, and that too for free. It helps them with their own learning.

I am not against learning from teachers.

Both my parents were teachers. I know the difference a good teacher can make in your life. A teacher has complete knowledge of the topic and knows how to explain it well. He or she also knows when the student is on the wrong track and quickly bringing her back on the right track.

But learning by yourself has its own advantages.

Learning something yourself might be slower but probably better in the long run. It’s similar to landing in a foreign country and walking down the streets many times.

At first, everything is brand-new and difficult to decipher. But if you walk down the streets several times, you get a pretty good understanding of where everything is located.

You find your own path. You pick up things your jaded teacher might have missed or not in touch with. You might stumble in the dark for a while, but you figure out what you need. The direction you take might lead to discoveries. Even digression has its own benefits.

The key is to walk down that street many times and discover parts of the street you may have missed earlier. You may feel that you will never become an expert, but you’ll be surprised at how much you can learn by pacing up and down and paying close attention.

Finally, when we are learning by ourselves, there is the temptation to start at the top.

I personally think that’s a mistake. It’s better to start somewhere in the middle as there is less pressure to get it right. As you get stuck, you’d have to find a way to get unstuck.

That’s approximately how you can go about teaching yourself almost anything.

That’s how a guide learns. That’s how you can learn too and become a guide for others.

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How To Stop Your Left Brain From Thinking

You know the feeling when you have something due, and you think there is still plenty of time. That was what I was feeling when I left the article writing to the last minute.

Just an hour was left before the article was meant to go live, and I hadn’t even started it yet. Do you know what happens in situations like these?

Your left brain takes over.

It sounds something like this. Are you crazy? You can’t write an article in less than an hour. It takes you two to three hours to pull one up on good days. On bad days, I have seen you taking seven to eight hours. Are you kidding yourself? Don’t send a half-baked, typo-strewn article to get yourself ridiculed. Give yourself time. Maybe give up writing. You have been writing for years and still struggling with it. Find something else. Something more suitable for your skills.

Sounds familiar?

How about when you were asked to make a speech in front of colleagues? You froze. That was your left brain in control of you again.

Do you remember when you were learning to drive and, for the first time, drove on a busy road? You could feel the taste of your stomach acid in your mouth. It’s your left brain at work.

The left brain is the bully brain. It doesn’t just complicate things with its logic; it goes one step further. It drowns out the free-thinking nature of the right brain.

Let’s figure out how the left brain works.

The left brain is mathematical and logical. It makes sure 6 + 4 is always 10 (not 11). It makes sure we reach a conclusion logically. Remember Mr. Spock of Star Trek movies. It is Mr. Spock of our Enterprise. For it, everything has to be logically evaluated and weighed and analyzed.

My left brain is raising its eyebrow at the moment. It is telling me logically I can’t write an article within an hour if my average is 2 to 3 hours. 

For it, 2 or 3 is not equal to one. 

For the bully brain, everything is black and white.

But thankfully I have another brain the right brain.

The right brain can see many colors. It can see the rainbow and the whole color pallet in between. That is why when we are painting, or drawing, or playing music, we are using the right brain.

This, of course, drives our bully brain totally crazy. It tries desperately to pigeon-hole everything into black and white. And, of course, it fails. And when the two brains are at odds with each other, it sends us into a spiral.

When we are faced with a problem, which brain we should listen to? Well, the logical answer is that we should reach out to the left brain. To Mr. Spock.

But how about if we reach out for the right brain—the crazy brain— instead.

The crazy brain doesn’t give a hoot about being black or white. So if you are to make a speech at work to a gathering of 100 colleagues, it will randomly pull out something it had stored away somewhere, which you don’t even remember, and get you started. It will start putting words in your mouth, and you wonder where is it coming from?

It will make you take action even before the bully brain has the chance to open its mouth. It will get you going even before Mr. Spock has time to lift his eyebrow.

The crazy brain works splendidly for writing.

All I had to do was to start writing. As soon as my fingers started moving on the keyboard, the ideas started coming. First a bit awkwardly but then fluently. I set the timer for fifteen minutes, which kept me more on track. Now there is a race between time and the crazy brain. It has to bring words faster than the timer runs out.

When we do something under strict time limits, the bully brain ping pongs between black and white. When we do something quite radical, it confuses the bully brain so much that it shut down.

If you haven’t done it before, try it. Give yourself 5 minutes to write an email. You have to address all the issues and type out a 200-words email in five minutes. Immediately your bully brain will snarl. Surely you can’t have speed and quality, it hisses. But ignore it. Just go with your crazy brain. And at first, you’ll get resistance, but eventually, the bully, like all bullies, will get fed up and leave.

I found this when I was learning typing in 1996.

I was using typing software to learn to type. When I started using it for the first time, I kept the speed at the slowest. But after some days, when my fingers became aware of where the letters were, I still kept the speed slow so that my accuracy improves. But rather than improving, it was getting worse. Then one day, out of frustration, I increased the speed of words appearing on the screen and started typing without looking at the keyboard. My accuracy was all-time better. I had managed to shut the bully brain.

But does that mean we should always go with the crazy brain?

No, of course not. Both brains have their value. But we have to recognize that the bully brain doesn’t do very well when dealing with fuzzy stuff that doesn’t end up with 6+4=10. So you have to bypass it.

Sometimes speed works. Sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes we can use a change of method, location, technology to trick the bully brain. Our job is to find out how to stop our bully brain from taking center stage and prancing around like a spoiled two-year-old.

What if the bully brain starts taking over?

If you start freezing or taking too much time or if what you do is driving you crazy, you need to stop the bully brain.

Find a way to access your crazy brain instead to tackle the same job in a totally different way. You get your work done and most importantly that bully brain shuts up. Phew!

Try it.

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