Upgrading Bathrooms And Life

As I type these words, the Jackhammer is whizzing literally above my head (upstairs), making it very hard to concentrate. We are renovating bathrooms. My mental energy is being consumed by plumbing and electrical issues typical of installing new fixtures in old structures, something we are all guilty of doing with our lives.

We try to upgrade ourselves by getting the latest gadgets, modern houses, and luxury vehicles, while we need a new vision.

This week I created a vision for myself based on Cameron Herold’s technique called A Painted Picture. I described it in the article How I Created A Vision For Next Three Years. I highly recommend that you read the article and create a vision for yourself.

I know, I know. The times are gloomy. The pandemic is still here. No one knows when it will go away. But that is the beauty of having a vision. You don’t concentrate on ‘how’ but on ‘what.’ Once you know ‘what’ you want, figuring out ‘how’ is easy.

Most people don’t know where what they want to do and where they want to be in the next three years of their lives. Having ‘no vision’ is a big reason that they can’t upgrade their lives.

Another thing that is extremely helpful in changing lives is Metal Models. Mental models are frameworks of thinking that you can use to solve problems, whether related to your life, work, business, or vocation. Any idea or issue can be seen through a mental model lens and solved uniquely. You can think of them as tools in a toolbox, each having a specific purpose. Like a hammer can’t be used where a plier is required, they make problem-solving much easier.

It is a fascinating field. I intend to write an article on them, particularly on mental models for writers.

Speaking of articles, I will be concentrating less on articles for the next four to five weeks. November is approaching, and I am gearing up to participate in the NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) challenge. For those of you who don’t know what NaNoWriMo is, it is a non-profit organization that provides a portal, tools, structure, community, and encouragement to writers to write 50,000 words in a month.

I was a bit hesitant to participate this year as I already have too many projects in the pipeline. But I decided to go ahead anyway because there is nothing like the energy I gain from thousands of people worldwide, writing together. Even if I don’t reach the 50,000 words, whatever word count I will manage will be better than no words at all.

Although I will be writing fewer articles next month, I still will be writing this newsletter, keeping you updated on my progress and whatever else I am learning through the process.

That is it from me this week.

Talk to you next week.

Take care.

How I Created A Vision For Next Three Years

Last week I stumbled upon Cameron Herold’s work by quite an accident. I listened to a YouTube video just before going to sleep (listening because I turn my phone upside down and don’t watch). Chase Jarvis was interviewing Life coach Marie Forleo on CreativeLive. I must have dozed off, but when I got up, Marie Forleo was referring to use A Painted Picture to choose which passion, out of several, you really want to pursue.

I was intrigued. 

For some time, I have been struggling with my focus. I think I have spread myself too thin, and I wanted to cut down on a few things so that I can actually finish a few projects.

I wanted to know what A Painted Picture was and how to create it.

For the next three days, I could do nothing else but read all I could find on The Painted Picture. What I found was gold. And I want to share it with you here.

What is A Painted Picture?

Many of us have participated in planning days at work, where a group of us sit together and come up with a jumble of words to create a vision and mission statement for the organizations we worked for.

That is a completely wrong way to do it. Most of the time, those vision and mission statements sit there for years without inspiring anyone.

Cameron Herold, in his book Double Double, described a technique for CEOs to create a clear vision for their companies. He called it A Painted Picture.

A painted picture is not a picture. It is a written description that every CEO should write to describe where he wants to take his company. It is written in plain English rather than meaningless, obscure, and heave words we are so used to in the corporate world. Once the thoughts are on paper, it is much easier to communicate with the conduit to materialize them.

It is like building your dream home.

When you want to build your home, you know what you want your home to look like. You have a vision for your home, but the people who will build your home don’t. You describe your vision to an architect and he creates a blueprint based on it. Then you take that blueprint and give it to your builder. It is effortless to explain what you want to be done and very easy for the builder to explain to his subcontractors. They build the house exactly as per plan. 

Imagine if you don’t have a vision for your dream house. 

Will your dream house get built?

Probably not. 

A vision lies behind every manifestation. Everything around us— the computer, the mobile phone, the book, the desk, the ergonomic chair began as an idea in someone’s head.

A vision is a mental picture of a future outcome, inspiring definite and sustained action towards its realization.

First say to yourself what you want to be, and then do what you have to do.

— Epictetus.

If vision is that important, then why don’t we create a vision for our life? 

First, Most of the time, we are too scared to plan our future. We want to avoid the disappointment of it not coming true. 

Second, whatever vision we do have, it is limited to our current capability. We don’t want to dream big. Because we know we don’t have the “know-how’ to make, it comes true. 

Our problem is we think too small. Small visions are not inspiring. They have the opposite effects. They limit us.

When it comes to our lives, our problem is not that hardly spend any time creating a vision.

We spend more time planning our holidays than planning our life. That is why our holidays materialize while our life doesn’t.

How to create a vision for your future?

We think in pictures.

An idea is a mental image. Thinking is an activity of forming mental images. Though all ideas are mental images, all ideas are not visions.

To create a vision, you need to touch with your inner self and find out what you want your dream life to look like. Just like your dream home, you need to think of different aspects of it. 

I used Cameron Herold’s A Painted Picture to create a vision for myself. Here are the steps I used.

1. I got out of the box.

If you want to create a vision of your future, you need to get out of the box. Go out. Somewhere in nature. Somewhere where you can connect with your inner self. I sat on the lawn in my backyard. 

Take with you just a notepad and a pen. No laptop, no iPad, no smartphone. Just a notepad. And write. Write in long-form. Say everything you want your life to be. Things you want to do. The places you want to visit. The person you want to become. (I filled three pages in two hours with lots of breaks for thinking and imagining.) 

2. I created a vivid vision.

A Vivid Vision is a three-dimensional world that you can step into and explore.

Imagine something you want but don’t have. It could be a car you’ve loved your whole life. It could be like a bike, a piece of furniture, or even a relationship. Pretend you have it now. Imagine yourself inside of it, using it, touching it. Describe what it looks like, how it feels. What stands out? What are you noticing? Describe the features, the lighting, the flow, the energy, the feel of it.

That’s a pretty clear vision. This is what you need to do for your life.

I described the books I wanted to write. I gave them titles. I imagined how their covers would look like. I pictured myself signing my books. I imagined myself speaking at the literary events, on Ted Talks, being interviewed on TV and radio.

3. I went for big dreams

If we want our future to look bright, we need to think big. We need to dream big. 

All my life, I was trained to set small achievable goals. I looked back in the past three years of my life and found so many things that had happened were not small by any means. There was no danger in thinking big. In fact, if I dream of big things, I am more likely to direct my attention to them and make them come true.

4. I went for three years rather than five.

A five-year vision is no good. Five years is a long time. Things are changing too quickly around us. I can’t see what will happen in five years of my life. One and two years are too close. I can’t achieve big dreams in one or two years. Three years is just right. It is not too close and not too far away. It is Goldielocks, right.

5. I didn’t worry about ‘how,’ and concentrated on ‘what.’

If you can release from the “how” part, you can grow really quickly. ‘How will I make your vision come true’ is very limiting. If I had worried about ‘how’ I wouldn’t have been able to build my dream home. I just like my dream home. I concentrated on ‘what’ I wanted in my life. Once I figured out ‘What’ I will look for who can help me materialize those things.

What Next?

Once I wrote my vision in long-form, I boiled it down to a few dot points. Something I can clearly relate to. Then starting drawing a one-page image from it. It took me two days to create that, and it is still a work in progress, but it has most of the elements on it. I am going to use it in three ways.

  1. I will stay in front of me. It has gone on my pin board, in my diary, and on my computer. I intend to see it every day. It reminds me of where I want to be in three years and what I need to do to get there. I will reverse engineer and will plan the action I need to take to make that happen. 
  2. I will be using visualization to realize it. Visualization is as important a tool as a vision itself. Have you ever seen an Olympic athlete in action? They are calm, confident, and in-the-zone. As if they have run the race, they are about to run thousands of times before. They indeed have in their minds. Soviet athletes have been reported to dedicate 75 percent of their training time to mental preparation techniques, including visualization. Jack Nicklaus has been quoted as saying that he never took a shot, not even in practice, without having a sharp, clearly focused image in his mind. 
  3. I will be sharing my vision with others. This is the most important part. When you start sharing with others, you tap into the universal energy that helps you materialize your vision. Others start helping you. They start giving you links and introduce you to people who have been on the same journey. Now you are not the only one working on your vision but the whole world. 

A few things about plans.

  • Plans are worthless, but planning is priceless. Plans may not happen. So many things can go wrong. Markets can crash, a pandemic can occur, and health might deteriorate. But the planning process gives you an advantage and foresight to tackle any of unforeseeable mishaps and still achieve success. 
  • Leave enough room in your plans to move your goals or to abandon them completely. As things change or change as a person, feel free to make new plans, and set new deadlines.
  • Plans, if not written, don’t exist. 
  • If you don’t have milestones, they are not plans but wishful thinking.

Your Turn

Take an afternoon off from your routine. Go somewhere where you can be by yourself. Write your vision for the next three years. Figure out what you want to be and what you want to achieve by 2024.

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Making a Stack

I learned two amazing lessons this week. Both from videos on YouTube. If I haven’t told you before I am a big YouTube fan. Not to watch movies or funny video but to learn.

I have discovered that YouTube is brilliant in its ability to suggest related videos. I picked this one up because of the title – The Drawing Advice That Changed My Life. It is made by a young Australian artist Struthless.

In the video, he tells a great story of his mentor Marc Schattner. Marc and his wife Gillie make dog and rabbit face human sculptures, paintings, and sketches. That is all they make. Struth was in awe of their work and constantly whined to Marc when will he be able to get to their level.

Then one day he sat Struth down and gave him some tough love.

One day you write a song, the next day you write a poem, and the third day you do a drawing. None of it adds up to anything. All you are doing is laying a single brink of million different houses and hoping one day it will magically become a mansion. It’s not going to happen.

You can do then things to one degree or you can do one thing to the tenth degree.

The message is as relevant to me as it was to Struth. I too am scattered. I too am doing too many things. I too need to focus. (Watch Struth’s video for the rest of the story.)

I am writing articles. I am writing on Medium. I am sketching. I am writing a novel. Although I love doing all of them, it scatter my energy.

But which one to pick and which one to let go.

It is not easy decision. At least for me.

The answer came from another video. In an interview with Chase Jarvis on CreativeLive Marie Forleo, a life coach, shared an exercise she gives her clients. It is called A Painted Picture.

It is an exercise based on Cameron Herold’s book Double Double to figure out a business vision. But it works well with an individual’s vision too. To do your Painted Picture, sit somewhere comfortable, preferably away from your work environment, and actually sketch a picture of yourself in three years’ time. Not five or ten but three years. The reason you don’t go past the three-year mark is that you need to keep one foot planted in reality, while still be able to `lean out into the future.’

It is a very powerful exercise.

I haven’t done it yet, but intend to do it. And I will share it here with you because sharing it is also part of the exercise.

This week I wrote two articles, What Do Readers Want (And How To Deliver It With Pizzazz) and What If Your Novel Doesn’t Fit The Three Act Structure. Check them out.

It has been two months since I moved to once a week newsletter rather than sending two articles a week. It is about time I ask for some feedback.

This format is working well for me. I get to report to you on two fronts, what I learned and what I wrote during the week. How is this format going for you? Would you like to continue to receive this kind of conversational, once a week newsletter? Or would you prefer to receive articles in your inbox? Is once a week enough? Or would you prefer to hear more often from me?

That is it from me this week.

Talk to you next week.

Take care.

What If Your Novel Doesn’t Fit The Three Act Structure

Matthew Jockers, Professor of English and Data Analytics at Washington State University, conducted an interesting study. He designed a computer program that used sentiment analysis as a proxy for plot movement of any book.

Jockers used best-selling novels for his study, including The Secret Life of Bees, The Lovely Bones, Gone Girl, All the Light We Cannot See, The Da Vinci Code, and The Notebook. When he fed the narrative arc for each of these novels into his computer program, it spat out lovely data that resembled a seismic graph. In other words, the plots of these best-selling novels had nothing in common. There was no clear three-act structure, plot elements all over the place, and each story followed its own unique structure.

As I am researching the novel-structure, I am discovering many other story structures.

Reading and understanding them is mind-boggling. Thankfully, another structure enthusiast, Greg Miller, has charted the important ones in a spreadsheet. Here is an image, but you can download it from his site.

To me, they are not much different than Three-Act-Structure. They have slightly different ways of arranging the plot elements, which could be useful for certain stories.

If you want to study any of them in detail, I suggest you go to the source (usually each author has written a book about it) and learn it well.

There are three I would like to mention here for their usefulness.

1. Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey

Joseph Campbell made literary waves when he suggested The Hero’s Journey based on mythological stories. According to this structure, every story is a journey where the protagonist goes through a transformation.

Campbell went on to say — that whether it is a myth scratched on a cave wall or uttered by a holy priest or a story written by a college freshman — it comes down to one basic structure: the transformation of consciousness via trials.

He broke this transformation into three steps or Acts: departure, fulfillment, and return.

It forms a common template of stories that involve a hero who goes on an adventure, is victorious in a decisive crisis and comes home changed or transformed.

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2. Christopher Vogler’s The Writer’s Journey

In the late nineties, writer Christopher Vogler developed on Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey template (particularly The Hero with a Thousand Faces) and came up with a theory that most stories can be boiled down to a series of narrative structures and character archetypes, described through mythological allegory.

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3. Michael Hauge’s Six Stage Plot Structure

I like Michael’s “Six Stage Plot Structure” because it takes into account the protagonist’s outer and inner journey. It is not as fast-paced as the other structures and has room for character growth, particularly in Stage III in Act II.

According to Michael Hauge, “Your role as a writer is to elicit emotion in the reader. That’s it.” The way you elicit emotion is by introducing conflict. Internal and external conflict is what engages your reader and gets them to care.” The bottom line is that all characters have an emotional wound they are trying to overcome.

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Summary

Okay, let me recap.

Most novels do not follow the classic models. They adhere to their own internal pulse.

Several authors have come up with several structures over thousands of years, but Aristotle’s Three-Act-Structure remains the most used and suitable for most stories.

If it doesn’t suit your story for some reason, the other three to consider are The Hero’s Journey, The Writer’s Journey, and the Six Stage Plot Structure.

There is only one universal rule of the structure of a story. It goes back to what Joseph Campbell uncovered: every story worth telling is about transformation via trials. There is no pattern because each character’s evolution is as unique and as individual as your transformation or mine.

In my next article on structure, I have more in store for you.

What Do Readers Want (And How To Deliver It With Pizzazz)

When Microsoft released Windows 10, they did an experiment. Instead of a boring blue screen with the Microsoft logo at the start-up, they introduced a lock screen. The lock screen is a display setting that shows breathtaking high-resolution pictures of places or natural phenomenon and some words to entice the readers to click the link. It was one of Microsoft’s strategies to get more traffic on its search engine.

Their strategy worked. Millions of people kept lock screen as a default screen saver and started clicking the link to learn more about the beautiful places introduced through a humble screen saver. 

Microsoft had figured out what their readers wanted.

What do readers want?

Today’s readers are savvy. They read a lot. That means they know a lot. They get frustrated with the poor quality writing. 

They want to consume a lot. But they are time-poor. An article needs to be worthy of their time and written in a way so that they can consume quickly and still get impacted by it.

When they select an article to read they want the article to do three things simultaneously. To entertain them, to educate them, and to inspire them.

It is no easy feat but we writers need to rise to the challenge. 

When they start writing online, many writers (including me) have no idea what readers are looking for. 

When I started writing, I was primarily writing for myself. The writing was a way to clear my thoughts and to become better at expressing myself. Since no one was reading my work, I didn’t have to think about entertaining, educating, or inspiring with my words. But as I grew as a writer and wanted to share my writing, I just embarked on it without much consideration whether my writing is suitable for consumption. 

It took me a lot of observation and an article writing course to bring my article useful and entertaining for my readers.

How can you do that too?

Here are three ways:

  1. Entertain them with stories
  2. Educate them with information
  3. Inspire them with examples.

1. Entertain Them with Stories

Stories are a great way to entertain the readers and get the point across in a light way. Stories give a break from heavy reading. Readers might forget the advice you might give them through your article, but they rarely forget the stories. Stories get itched on their psyche. It is not an accident that all religious teaching happens through stories.

Have a read of the following story that explains the difference between an imposter and a beginner so beautifully in an article written by Sean D’Souza.

My father ran a secretarial college. And one of his students was a conman.

Back in Mumbai, where I grew up, the majority of secretaries were women and Catholic. Steve, the conman, was from another religion. Like most conmen, he had different aliases, and when he joined my father’s college, he wasn’t Steve. Instead, he called himself Sadashiv.

As we learned later, this conman was very thorough. He would go through a complete transformation where he’d fall in love with a girl, then convert to her religion. And even change his name to a more suitable “Catholic name”. They’d then get married, start up a joint bank account and all would be well for about a year.

One day his new wife and her family would wake up to find “Steve” had disappeared.

During that first year of marriage, Steve would create an enormous level of trust, and then once he had his plan in order, he’d decamp with money, jewellery and all sorts of valuables. The only reason my father found out his modus operandi was because he called my father from jail, saying that he’d been framed.

When my father went to post bail, he was informed that Steve or Sadashiv had many aliases. He always used the letter S, when coming up with names. And he’d been in jail many times before. The story was always the same. He was an impostor and certainly no beginner.

2. Educate them with Information

There is a reason “How To” articles and books are doing so well for decades now. Readers need to learn to do things and articles are a great way to start. A time-poor reader will start with articles to get some basic understanding of a topic and then move on to books to build a deep understanding.

Educational articles are written in form of listicles just like this one. They could be long (I have seen listicles with thirty points or more) or short (like this article which has just three points).

I believe three to seven is a good number. 

My personal favorite is three points. Three points give you enough space to include substance and are not too long for the readers to consume in one read. Seven is my upper limit. I wrote an article Seven Tips To Write With Style which got curated. Anything above that and we start losing the readers.

When writing educational articles, write it as if you are explaining to a single reader. That will make your writing personal and understandable. If you write for masses, you don’t connect with anyone.

You don’t have to be an authority on the topic. You can provide beginner level information. But whatever you write you need to understand it well so that you come across as someone who knows her topic well. 

3. Inspire them with examples

Examples bring the point home. They also make it easy for the readers to understand what you are saying. 

In the article, The Expert Generalist: Why the Future Belongs to Polymaths Zat Rana gives the examples of Aristotle, Galileo, and Da Vinci to make a case for gaining breath of knowledge as compared to the depth of knowledge.

Learning itself is a skill, and when you exercise that skill across domains, you get specialized as a learner in a way that someone who goes deep doesn’t. You learn how to learn by continuously challenging yourself to grasp concepts of a broad variety. This ironically then allows you to specialize in something else faster if you so choose. This is an incredibly valuable advantage.

Aristotle practically invented half a dozen fields of study across philosophy. Galileo was as much a physicist as he was an engineer when he helped kick-start the scientific revolution. Da Vinci might have been even more famous as an inventor than an artist if his notebooks were ever published.

Ryan Holiday quotes examples from both ancient and contemporary text in his article Why Everyone Should Watch Less News.

Two thousand years ago, Marcus Aurelius wrote in his Meditations, “Are you distracted by breaking news? Then take some leisure time to learn something good, and stop bouncing around.”

A reader of Bryan Burrough’s Days of Rage would find that between 1971 and 1972, there were some 2500 politically motivated bombings in the United States. 

In the pages of Thucydides’ The History of the Peloponnesian War, they’d find an eerily modern jockeying between an ascendant power and a dominant power and the mistakes made by both. 

Reading Robert Kennedy’s Thirteen Days, his first-hand account of the Cuban Missile Crisis, would reveal the life and death calculations of nuclear powers, each looking to save face and neither looking to actually blow up the world. 

In Walker Percy’s The Moviegoer, a reader might relate to the rather ageless angst of the next generation trying to find its meaning and purpose in the world.

In Anne Frank’s diary we hear of the timeless plight of the refugee, we are reminded of the humanity of every individual (and how societies lose sight of this) and we are inspired — even shamed — to see the cheerful perseverance of a child amidst far worse circumstances than ours.

In Stefan Zweig’s biography of Montaigne we get the unique perspective of a man turning away from the chaos of the world to examine the life of a man who turned inward, away from the chaos of the world some 400 years earlier.

Although it is not easy to come up with these examples, as a writer, it is our job to research before sitting down and writing the article. Many writers have swipe files where they collect information that interest them. This way, they have already done their research before they sit down to write.

There you go, you now have three basic ingredients the readers want in an article. 

Combine all three and you will have a winning recipe.

Writing is like cooking. We have a lot of ingredients to work with. But with time we learn that each recipe has basic ingredients (without which the recipe can’t work) and the secondary ingredients (nice for variation, to change the flavor, taste, texture, etc.). Just like a cake recipe can’t work without eggs, butter, and self-rising flour, an article doesn’t work without stories, information, and examples.

It might sound hard initially but with practice, it becomes second nature just like baking a cake.

Remember when you first time baked a cake, how long it took you and how much mess you made. And it still fell flat in the middle. But with the time you got better. 

Dabble. Play around with the ingredients. Repeat the process.

Every writer on the planet has learned it this way. J K Rowling, Stephen King, Elizabeth Gilbert, or any good writer were not born with writing genes. They learned with constant practice.

Keep in mind, talent is nothing more than reducing the errors and eventually eliminating them. 

Many writers are already doing it. Read the work of your favorite writers and learn from them.

Find what you love and let it kill you

Two things happened this week. One, I got up at 3:45 AM on Thursday to listen to Jane Friedman’s seminar on blogging, and second, I got into a very interesting discussion with a group of friends on Whatsapp.

More than two years of blogging, and I am still learning about the craft. Blogging has changed so much in the past five to seven years. No longer it is a web diary to write about one’s hobbies and passions but a strategic tool to develop a brand and build a following.

“Blogging is not critical for every author and you don’t have to do it,” said Jane, “so if you’re eager to be let off the hook, you have permission to ignore blogging altogether.”

But then she goes on to add:

But blogging does remain one of the most straightforward paths to build and engage a readership over the long term, at least for writers. Blogging, at its core, is a special genre of writing and can be a wonderful creative outlet that doubles as one of your marketing superpowers.

But for blogging to have a real payoff for your career or author business, it has to be done with a particular strategy in mind and executed with some discipline.

In the two years, I have spent thousands of dollars, attended countless courses, and invested an insane number of hours to build my little turf on the internet. Yet I am nowhere near the nirvana.

As I was contemplating the countless mistakes I have made in my short blogging career, a friend of mine, Sean D’Souza, posted a list of products (mostly ebooks and courses) he had created and sold through his website in the past twenty years. It was an impressive list.

I probably would have delivered a similar number of projects in twenty years of my corporate and public career but they are nowhere to be seen. They certainly are not generating income the way Sean’s products still are. I could have written twenty books in twenty years and they would have amounted much more than the work I did working for others.

We have a tendency to look at things that didn’t work in our lives.

But “things that didn’t work” are the stepping stones to “things that did work.”

Sean told a story about going through his cartoon diaries because people kept telling him that he needed to make a book out of those. He was having a hard time finding what to include and what not.

Then he remembered, once, one of his clients was so happy looking at the blank and unfinished pages in his diary. He couldn’t figure out why. But he does now. It is that kind of stuff we don’t see. All the unfinished work, the sketches, the crumpled paper. They are the stepping stones to the finished work.

If we don’t have a decent amount of bad work, we’ll never have good work. If we don’t attend bad webinars and courses and workshops, we don’t know what good ones are like. If we don’t make mistakes we will never achieve anything.

Our passions become obsessions. We spend an insane amount of energy doing things we love to do. We may never get the rewards for our labor but we do get the satisfaction of action. Then Kinky Friedman’s words say it all.

My dear,
Find what you love and let it kill you.
Let it drain you of your all. Let it cling onto your back and weigh you down into eventual nothingness.
Let it kill you and let it devour your remains.
For all things will kill you, both slowly and fastly, but it’s much better to be killed by a lover.

Falsely yours

Kinky Friedman

This week I wrote two articles, How to make your writing memorable, poetic, and persuasive, and How to Structure Your Novel both I have been wanting to write for some times. Hope they are helpful.

That is it from me this week.

Talk to you next week.

Take care.

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