10 Learnings from the first year of blogging

Neera

Today marks the one year of this blog. 27 July last year, was a turning point in my life. After a lot of apprehensions, I bought my name as the domain name to start blogging. I finally came to terms with the fact that if I want to take my passion for writing seriously I need to start putting my work out there.

The same evening my father passed away. It doesn’t matter how old you are when you lose your parents, you lose a part of yourself with them. Overnight I grew up from being a daughter to a mother. With that came the realization that my time here is also going to end sooner than later.

Losing parents bring us face to face with our own mortality. Was I ready? Had I done all that I wanted to do? The truth shook me to the bones. Like everyone else, I was postponing life. Too busy with the busyness of the life that I was not even living it. “It is not death that a man should fear,” wrote Marcus Aurelius, “but he should fear never beginning to live.”

Work was not fulfilling. House was empty. There was emptiness all around me. In that silence, I could hear the tiny voice in me. It said: Make something. Do the things you used to love. Read the books you want to read. Write. Draw. Leave some legacy behind.

I decided to make writing my life’s mission and blog my portal. But if only it was that simple. It is easy to set up a blog but it is hard to write something worth sharing regularly. Then there is the technology that chews up your precious time in learning new skills and troubleshooting. I persisted and learned a lot.

The whole year has been a steep learning curve not only in blogging but in life’s lessons. Here are ten things worth sharing here:

1. Choose creativity over the competition. All my life I was raised to compete. It is the survival of the fittest, our generation learned from Darwin. The only way to lead a better life is to be the best student, get the best job, be the best employee, win promotions, marry an ambition person, accumulate wealth, own the biggest house, drive an expensive car and have holidays at exotic places. Nowhere there was room to slow down, to take it easy, to get in touch with the creative soul in yourself and you will have to compete for anything. Wallace D. Wattles imparted with the knowledge more than a hundred years ago, “…a man must pass from the competitive to the creative mindset to achieve whatever he wants to achieve; otherwise, he cannot be in harmony with the Formless Intelligence, which is always creative and never competitive.”

2. Start whatever you want to do because the boldness has the genius, power, and magic to it. Doing anything worthwhile takes a lot of courage and commitment. So many times we feel so overwhelmed and paralyzed with the enormity of the task that we don’t even take the first step. Yet it all we need to do to begin any journey doesn’t matter however long. Once we are on the path and concentrating on just the next step, we overcome many obstacles that otherwise seemed insurmountable. I experienced this first hand this year with my blogging journey. And I will continue to test this theory with my other endeavors.

3. How we spend our days is how we spend our lives, pointed out Annie Dillard. Get hold of your days and you will have a hold of your lives. Seneca, a Roman Philosopher wrote two thousand years ago “You live as if you were destined to live forever, no thought of your frailty ever enters your head, of how much time has already gone by you take no heed. You squander time as if you drew from a full and abundant supply, though all the while that day which you bestow on some person or thing is perhaps your last.” Don’t let other people make demands on your time. Put your life’s goals first otherwise one day it will be too late. In Seneca’s words, “In guarding their fortune men are often closefisted, yet, when it comes to the matter of wasting time, in the case of the one thing in which it is right to be miserly, they show themselves most extravagant.”

4. Find your calling. “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.” wrote Robert Byrne. We are not here to earn a living and raise children. Even animals do that. All the intelligence that Nature bestowed in us is for a higher purpose. Each one of us has to find our own calling and then fulfill it. “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” said Pablo Picasso.

5. Follow your bliss, says Joseph Campbell in The Power of Myth. It will help to fulfill your purpose much easier and joyful. “If you follow your bliss, you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Wherever you are — if you are following your bliss, you are enjoying that refreshment, that life within you, all the time. It is no rocket science when you are in touch with yourself but very hard to know when you are far removed from your own soul.

6. Art is innate to humans. Art is not a painting or a drawing or a statue. “Art is a habit,” explains Seth Godin, “Creating art is a habit, one that we practice daily or hourly until we get good at it. Art isn’t about the rush of victory that comes from being picked. Nor does it involve compliance. Art in the post-industrial age is a lifelong habit, a stepwise process that incrementally allows us to create more art. Art is passionate and personal. Great art resonates with the viewer, not only with the creator. Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient. The medium doesn’t matter. The intent does. Art is a personal act of courage, something one human does that creates change in another. Art is not perfection. You can be perfect or you can make art. Pay attention to what art is and then make art. Because art is a worthy legacy to leave behind.

7. Never doubt your creativity. Learn to listen to the tiny voice inside you which wants you to create. To make something that will make you happy as it used to when you were a child. It doesn’t care whether it is good, sellable or will make any difference in anyone’s life. It wants you to create something which will make a difference for you. Something that will make you happy. Listen to that voice because if you don’t, it will die. And with it, a big chunk of you will die too.

8. Build stamina. Put the hours in. Stamina is very important. “Doing anything worthwhile takes forever. 90% of what separates successful people and the failed people is time, effort and stamina,” advises Hugh Macleod who can’t be beaten on stamina.

9. Listen to everyone, do what your heart desires. There are too many people advising too many things. Listen to all of them and then ask yourself what you think. Meditate on it. Your answers might be different than others. And that is your truth. Try to bring that out. Follow your own path. You never know where it might lead you.

10. Continue to learn. Never stop. Never give up. Make several tiny adjustments like the airplane does through its course. There is a solution to every problem, you haven’t found it yet. Whatever you are trying to do, someone has done it before you and left behind lots of notes or at least a number of clues. Persist and you will figure it out too. Too many people get frustrated and give up. Don’t get counted with those. Get counted with the few who go all the way and fulfill the purpose of their lives.

I am looking forward to next year’s learnings. Here are ten of my favorite posts that really enjoyed writing.

1. How to find the purpose of your life

2. Finding Balance

3. How not to waste time

4. Become a “scenius” rather than a genius

5. Work-life balance – have we got it all wrong?

6. Who are you writing for?

7. So You Want to Write a Novel

8. How new-age creatives not only surviving but thriving

9. Words are better than 1000 pictures

10. So many books, so little time

Do any of my learnings resonate with you? Let me know which of my posts you enjoyed this year.

How New Age Creatives are not only surviving but thriving

Neera

There was a time when art and creativity were linked to poverty. A struggling artist is a common image in everyone’s mind. That is why parents force their artistic kids to also have some professional qualifications as well in case they can’t make a living from their art.

That is why Elizabeth Gilbert writes in Big Magic not to stress your art by demanding it to make money for you.

…long before the Internet and digital technology ever existed – the arts were still a crap career. It’s not likely back in 1989 anybody was saying to me, “You know where the money is, kid? Writing!” They weren’t saying that to anyone back in 1889, either, or in 1789, and they won’t be saying it in 2089. But people will still try to be writers, because they love the vocation. People will keep being painters, sculptors, musicians, actors, poets, directors, quilters, knitters, potters, glassblowers, metalworkers, ceramicists, calligraphers, collagists, nail artists, clog dancers and Celtic harpist as well. Against all sound advice, people will stubbornly keep trying to make pleasing things for no particularly good reason, as we always have done.

That is the reason Hugh McLeod advises to keep your day job in his book Ignore Everybody.

The creative person basically has two kinds of jobs. One is the sexy, creative kind. Second is the kind that pays the bills.

Austin Kleon agrees with them in How to Steal Like an Artist and advises to find work that pays your bills but also teaches you something that helps you with your art like being a librarian or website developer helped him to establish himself as a writer.

But what if they are all wrong? What if they are being over cautious? What if artists can make living with their art?

What if art is the only thing that will get rewarded in the twenty-first century?

Jeff Goins in his book Real Artists Don’t Starve makes the point that you can make a living as an artist and that you don’t have to starve to follow your passion.

He tells the story of Michael Angelo to break the myth of starving artists.

I don’t know how much you know about Michelangelo but usually they taught us that he kind of struggled like Vincent van Gogh.

For centuries, historians believed that Michelangelo, the great Renaissance master, struggled like Vincent van Gogh . That he was just another starving artist. Michelangelo himself embraced this image, living frugally and often complaining about money.

But it turns out he wasn’t telling the truth.

Jeff Goins in Why the Story of the Starving Artist Needs to Die

Jeff Goins goes on to say, “Thanks to the power of this myth, many of us take the safe route in life. We become lawyers instead of actresses, bankers instead of poets, and doctors instead of painters. We hedge our bets and hide from our true calling, choosing less risky careers, because it seems easier. Nobody wants to struggle, after all, so we keep our passion a hobby and follow a predictable path toward mediocrity.”

Now is the best time in history to do creative work. Seth Godin has been giving this message in his books for a while now.

When you were rewarded for obedience, you were obedient. When you were rewarded for compliance, you were compliant. When you were rewarded for competence, you were competent. Now the society finally values art, it’s time to make art.

I have collected three examples of new-age creatives who are not only surviving but thriving.

750Words

Buster Benson, an IT geek who wanted to become a writer, has long been inspired by an idea he first learned about in The Artist’s Way called morning pages.

One fine morning Buster decided he was going to build an online app where he can type morning pages. His idea was, it is easier to reach for a computer these days than finding a notebook and his hand worked better on the keyboard than on the notebook. So he builds an app and called it 750Words, which he made available for others for free.

Writers liked it so much that in three years’ time Buster had to install more servers to keep up with the demand. Today the app has 455,111 members, out of which approx 4500 are paid, members. I will let you do the math how much Buster (and his wife Kellianne who provides support to the members) make from just one bright creative idea they implemented. Of course, Buster has many more up his sleeve, check him out.

Psychotactics

Sean D’souza, of Psychotactics, is a graphic design turned cartoonist turned marketer who has built a massive community of small business owners worldwide working from New Zealand. He passes on to them what he learned from Leo Burnett’s advertising agency which he considers one of the best advertising agencies in the world. Not only that, he runs online cartoonist courses each year which gets sold out within 14 hours of release. Recently he stopped doing online business mentoring saying no to $150, 000 a year so that he can concentrate on other things. Such is the demand for his expertise.

Brain Pickings

This is what happens when a 23-year-old worker of an advertising agency notices that her co-workers were circulating information within the advertising industry around the office for inspiration. The world’s most famous literary blog gets started. Because 23 years old work had different ideas. She thought creativity was better sparked with exposure to information outside of the industry one was familiar with. In an effort to stir creativity, she starts sending emails to the entire office containing five things that had nothing to do with advertising but were meaningful, interesting, or important.

From that humble beginning, email originated Brain Pickings a blog read by millions making its writer Maria Popova an online celebrity. She is said to make the US $250,000 to $500,000 a year from her blog.

What are your thoughts on striving artists? Have you got any examples of thriving creatives you would like to share here? I would love to hear from you.

So you want to write a novel

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You think there is a book in you. 

It might be a memoir, or it might just be a novel. You are not sure. 

Some scenes keep playing in your head again and again. You have even met the protagonist.

She comes into your dreams and talks to you. She has shared some secrets with you—just some. You know there are more secrets, but when you ask, she remains quiet. Then she disappears. You push her to the back of your mind and get on with your life. Then one day, when you have forgotten all about her, she is sitting on the corner of your bed, in tears, accusing you of abandoning her.

She wants you to write her story. You have no idea how to. You tell her that, but she won’t leave you alone.

Drip by drip, she feeds you her story but not enough to make sense. You faithfully record what she is telling you. You even try to fill in the missing bits with your imagination, but they are not authentic. You need to hear it from her.

What can you do? Should you write her story as best as possible, or should you tell her to leave you alone and let her story die?

This is the decision only you can make. No one else can make it for you.

Writing a novel is hard.

If you decide to write that story, and you have never written one before, let me tell you something you don’t perhaps know. Instantly you rise to the category of a select few. Writing a novel is hard. Very hard. That is the reason only a handful of us dare do it.

There are books and books written on how to write a novel by experienced authors. The gods of the writing world — Stephen King, William Zinsser, Anne Lamott, Dean Koontz, Annie Dillard, James Scott Bell, and Margaret Atwood — have shared their wisdom. 

I am a mere mortal who is still struggling with her first novel for more than five years. What can I tell you about writing a novel?

Perhaps not much, other than — writing a novel is like carrying a baby, it gets heavier and heavier with time, and one day you have to deliver it. 

Sometimes you have a miscarriage, sometimes a stillbirth, but never it is that you can keep the baby inside you.

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” — Maya Angelou

If you are one of those who are carrying a novel in you, if you are the one who really wants to write it, there are a few things I have learned that I would love to share with you.

1. Your first-born is yours to keep

Like any first-born, he is going to be your dearest, and rightly so. It was the most difficult pregnancy and most painful delivery. Yet, it is not a baby you can show to the world. He is yours and yours alone. The sooner we understand this fact, the sooner we come to terms with his role in our lives and ours in his.

Our role is to bring him out in the world, and he is to prepare us to give birth to more.

The first draft is just you telling yourself the story. — Terry Pratchett

Don’t tell yourself it is not worth it, or it will take too long, or you don’t have the skills, or even if you write one, no one would want to publish it, and even if it gets published, you won’t make much money from it unless it wins the Man Booker prize and if it doesn’t, what is the point of writing one.

Just write it for yourself.

2. Infertility is the thing of the past

Remember those days when you were told that you couldn’t have a baby because your eggs couldn’t descend, or there was some problem with your fallopian tubes or sperm count was less … things like that. Those are all things of the past. Now there is artificial insemination, test-tube babies, surrogate mothers…

The limitation that you can’t write a novel doesn’t exist anymore.

James Scott Bell, a lawyer and thriller writer, wrote Plot and Structure that he wasted ten years of a prime writing life because he was fed a big lie. He gave up the dream of becoming a writer in his twenties because he was told writing couldn’t be taught, that the writers were born, that you either have it, or you don’t.

Then at age thirty-four, he read an interview with a lawyer who’d had a novel published. In the interview, the lawyer said something which hit James like a stack of bricks. He said he’d had an accident and was almost killed. In the hospital, given a second chance at life, he decided the one thing he wanted was to be a writer. And he would write and write, even if he never got published because that was what he wanted.

James wanted to write too. So he went out and bought his first book on fiction writing. He taught himself writing and became a writer of more than 25 novels and countless other books.

Infertility is a thing of the past. There are so many options available now. Explore and use. Don’t lead the life of despair.

People say, ‘What advice do you have for people who want to be writers?’ I say, they don’t really need advice, they know they want to be writers, and they’re gonna do it. Those people who know that they really want to do this and are cut out for it, they know it. — R.L. Stine

3. Conception is delightful

More than twenty years ago, I read an interview of Barbara Cartland (she was more than ninety years old at that time) where she said she was still writing a novel a year, only that she was now dictating it rather than typing it. There was a picture of her with the article, where she was lying on a four-poster bed with a pink canopy in a gilded bedroom. She was wearing a pink dress, a white fur scarf, diamonds, and full makeup, and I said to myself, Wow!

I will never forget that picture of her. That was then I conceived the idea of writing novels.

The beauties of conception are always superior to those of expression — Walter J Phillips

I was seduced not because Barbara Cartland was living the fantasy life she was writing about in her novels, but that she was writing one each year, in her nineties and from her bed. How many professions are there where you can have that kind of productivity at that age?

Writing a novel is a worthy goal for any writer. Like Anne Lamott says, “Writing can give you what having a baby can give you; it can get you to start paying attention, can help you soften, can wake you up.”

For the past few days have been reviewing my half-written novel. Chapter 1 needs tightening, chapters 2 and 3 are perfect, but I am not sure about 4 and 5 where POV changes from protagonist to another character. Should I keep it that way or get rid of them altogether. But they move the story forward. I like chapters 6, 7, and 8. My protagonist finds her inner strength here. 

There are places where I think, did I write this or someone else wrote them, and my heart pumps with pride.

I am up to chapter 11 now, and I love it. I can’t wait to hold this baby in my arms because it is mine and mine alone.

Photo by Rhiannon Black on Unsplash

Thirty posts in 30 days

Neera

It is a confessional post today so bear with me, please.

Yesterday marked the end of a personal challenge I set for myself, to send a post out every day for a month. I nailed it!

Many months ago, I set myself a similar challenge, to share something every day, but failed. At that time I was aiming for 200 to 500 words only, in a rambling style. This time I averaged 1000 words per post and wrote magazine style articles. I am really pleased with myself.

Why it was so important to meet this challenge?

It is the start of my blogging life in the true sense (I am not counting previous attempts here), and I want to make sure that I set myself a routine to write, research, review and publish regularly. There were days when I didn’t get any time during the day, on those days I stayed up very late finishing the posts. There were days when my eyes hurt so much (I have chronic dry eyes) but I persisted. I had to create these memories so when in the future I feel like slacking, I have this positive experience to draw from. If I could do it then, I can do it now. It is very important to have examples from our own past to motivate ourselves.

Another reason I set this challenge up was to accelerate my learning. The more I wrote the easier it became. I learned how to research a topic, how to dig out my own opinion, how to present it in a simple way and most importantly how to find topics that I though will interest you as much as they interest me. Your comments showed me I was hitting the nail sometimes. Other times I was not so sure. Bloggers rely on their readers to direct them to what they should write. You are the reason I write. I want to contact you and want to know what is worrying you. How can I help? Is there any topic you would like my research and present my views? I would like to know your views too. So please leave me comments, however small.

I really enjoyed writing articles on my travels. Every traveler notices different things when they visit a new place. I hope you learned something new from my account. Writing about them doubled my enjoyment of traveling because I was paying more attention to everything. Besides, it engaged my family members too, prompting me to take pictures, collecting brochures and proofreading posts.

Where to from here?

I am in blogging for a long haul. I love this platform. It is the most appropriate platform for a writer where you can not only practice your craft but share your learning with others and build a community of shared interests. Writing, which is a very solitary activity otherwise, becomes a medium to win friends. And I believe we all need more like-minded friends regardless of the distance.

I have discovered that the most productive way to work form me is to have monthly goals. I get too many ideas. As the proverb goes, time to act on an idea is while it is still hot, I get too much excited and want to work on all of them straightaway. The compromise I have made is to stick with an idea at least a month. Hence monthly projects.

My next project is going to be from 15 July – 15 August (for some reason my project month is starting halfway through calendar months) and it is going to be working on my novel. I started it five years ago and intended to finish it this year so that I can start the next one in January next year. I haven’t touched it for eighteen months now. It is time I bring its characters out of their exile.

I will still be publishing regularly, at least three times a week, more if I find something interesting that can’t wait. I thank my stars every day having born at a time in history when so much is at our fingertips, literary.

By the way, I have profiled myself based on Nina Katchadourian art exercise I introduced in my yesterday’s post How to use your inflight time to create art? Here are three piles of books addressing three traits of myself: learning, traveling and becoming new me.

The art of learning big magic.
The writer’s journey in Patagonia
Line by line breaking the habit of being yourself

I hope you will also give it a go.

Next post on Wednesday

PS: I am working on the Patagonia post I promised in Lake District – Chile and Argentina post.

How to use your inflight time to create art?

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So you think you have no time to make art. It used to be my number one complaint, “No time, no art,” until I learned about Nina Katchadourian. Frustrated by time wasted by frequent flying Nina Katchadourian came up with an idea before a flight in 2010, that made all her subsequent flights her studio.

Determined to maximize her time on the plane and remain engaged during what is often a numbing experience, New York-based multidisciplinary artist Nina Katchadourian developed a kind of game to create things throughout the entire flight that became known as project “Seat Assignment.”

As an artist, I’m always looking at what more there might be in our mundane, everyday surroundings if we pay it interest, give it a second look.

I hadn’t brought materials with me, so I began playing with whatever was at hand on my tray table, and documented the results with my camera phone.

In an interview with Astry

Seat Assignment has been displayed at art museums, and the collection continues to grow. The project was born from thinking on the feet, from optimism about the artistic potential that lurks within the mundane, and from curiosity about the productive tension between freedom and constraint.

What makes the project works is unexpectedness. Each time you wonder how did she do it. She intentionally uses a mobile phone. “Once you pull out a real camera,” she says, “it screams, I am making art!” In two hundred flights since 2010, only three people asked her what she was up to.

She was flying from New York to New Zealand when she thought, I have twenty hours ahead of me, why not do the whole exhibition based on this flight and she did. It’s worth reading her interview on Berlin Art Link.

Inspired I had a go in my kitchen:

While researching her I found another interesting project by her where she attempts to profile a person based on his/her book collection by selecting and arranging books in stacks based on titles. Have a look at this video:

It goes like this:

1. Choose a person you know or would like to know better

2. Take a look at/through their library

3. Make 3 stacks of books to develop a portrait of the person

And here are some examples:

This is a project for me for another day. Do write to me to let me know what you think of Nina’s projects.

Work-life balance – have we got it all wrong?

Neera

The term “work-life balance” is so common that it has lost its meaning. 

Ask a bunch of people what work-life balance is for them, and they all will come with a different meaning. 

Balance means a state of equilibrium, a condition where everything is still and in equal proportion. 

Have you ever had a day when either your work or your life was still? Do you spend your time in equal proportion on work and life?

This suggestion of work-life balance is based on the assumption that work is bad, and life is good; spend more time on life and less time on work, and you will have a happy life. 

That is a wrong assumption.

Let me make a case for work.

Work is a major part of our lives. It defines us. It provides intellectual stimulation, helps us learn, expresses ourselves, pays for our bills, and helps us socialize and collaborate with other people. 

When done for thirty to forty years of our lives, it becomes a habit. 

Work is essential for a fulfilling life. Without it, life is purposeless, uninspiring, and dull.

But then we are expected to be at work 24/7. 

There are no defined working hours. 

Technological advancement means even when we are not physically at work, work can reach us. 

If you can’t get out of range, you are not really away from work. It is very easy for your work to claim demands on your time, particularly your free time. 

The demand for our time has been increasing with other technological advances such as social media.

Humans are not evolving at the pace of technological advances. 

Evolution works at a very slow pace. Big changes take hundreds of generations. 

Humans were designed for low attention spans so that we can scan our environment and keep ourselves safe. 

We were also designed to rest and take it easy to conserve our energy. But we are expected to be productive for several hours of the day. 

Evolution or rather lack of evolution is the reason why we are struggling to fit the huge demands of work into our lives. We are trying to get ourselves to do something very hard for us.

It changes the scale of our troubles. Although so often it seems incredibly personal that one fails to combine work harmoniously with family life or with exercise or with maintaining old friendships, the charge should not really be laid primarily against oneself. The fault lies with something much larger than our own individual failings (real though those are). It lies with where we are in history, with the nature of the economy and in the slow pace of evolution.

The Book of Life

Then there is this argument:

Our brain is funny. Its primary function is to keep us safe from danger. It has us believe that in order to insulate us from such, we must work harder, meaner, and longer to stay ahead of potential competitors who can rip the rug out from under us at any moment. But the reality is, when we are well rested and reflective rather than reactive, we put ourselves in a better place; a place that is well insulated from the ultimate danger of meaningless or, even worse, toxic, self-destructive work.”

Charles F. Glassman, Brain Drain The Breakthrough That Will Change Your Life

Poet and Philosopher David Whyte call “work/life balance” a “phrase that often becomes a lash with which we punish ourselves.” 

In his new book The Three Marriages: Reimagining Work, Self, and Relationship, he offers an emboldening way out of this cultural trap.

The current understanding of work-life balance is too simplistic. People find it hard to balance work with family, family with self, because it might not be a question of balance. Some other dynamic is in play, something to do with a very human attempt at happiness that does not quantify different parts of life and then set them against one another. We are collectively exhausted because of our inability to hold competing parts of ourselves together in a more integrated way.

[…]

Work, like marriage, is a place you can lose yourself more easily perhaps than finding yourself. It is a place full of powerful undercurrents, a place to find our selves, but also, a place to drown, losing all sense of our own voice, our own contribution and conversation.

[…]

Good work like a good marriage needs a dedication to something larger than our own detailed, everyday needs; good work asks for promises to something intuited or imagined that is larger than our present understanding of it. We may not have an arranged ceremony at the altar to ritualize our dedication to work, but many of us can remember a specific moment when we realized we were made for a certain work, a certain career or a certain future: a moment when we held our hand in a fist and made unspoken vows to what we had just glimpsed.

David Whyte in The Three Marriages: Reimagining Work, Self and Relationship

The truth is there will always be unbalanced in work and life. 

There will be times (days or months or years) when work will be your number one priority, and there will be a time when life will take precedence over your work. 

Your ability to identify those times and maturity to be flexible will determine the “balance” in your life. Your time and energy shift based on the rotating demands of each area of your life.

“There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.” — Alain de Botton.

When we start losing ourselves in work, when we see ourselves as an extension of work and have no identity left outside of work, we have a problem. 

Too many people fell prey to ‘work is life’ syndrome and pay a heavy price when work is no longer there.