Aunt Olivia ( SHORT STORY)

Aunt Olivia looks forward to the arrival of the community carer Lara who comes three times a week to help her with the shower and other little things she can’t do herself after her hip operation.

Twenty-three years old Lara is the only human connection Aunt Olivia has left with anyone other than her two nieces who take turns in dropping food. Their trips are short, conversation to the point and often loaded with instructions on how long to heat the food and what to do in case there is an emergency. It is Lara with whom Aunt Olivia gets to have a chat she so much needs.

‘While you are here would you mind rubbing some cream on my legs? They are prickly like cactus.’ Lara, a second-year nursing student, who works as a carer on the side, obliges.

‘Tell me how that boyfriend of yours is going?’ Olivia asks enjoying Lara’s young finger massage her wrinkly skin.

‘He is doing fine. These days he is helping his dad repair their house in Braidwood. I hardly see him.’

‘Not good dear, not good. You two ought to get married by now.’

Lara smiles. Each week, at least once, the conversation goes in the direction of marriage. It seems that when old people have nothing left in their own lives, they start meddling with others.

But Lara doesn’t mind Aunt Olivia prying. She has a way about her that was nudging but not intruding. That is perhaps the reason why she is an aunt to everyone.

‘We have talked about this before, Aunt Olivia. We are too young to get married. Besides both, Alex and I do not have regular income yet.’

‘Too young,’ scolds Aunt Olivia, ‘how old you want to be when you have children. Thirty-five. Goodness golly! You two have been living together for five years. Didn’t you say that to me?’

‘Yes.’ Lara wipes the extra oil from Olivia’s legs with a towel and pulls the pyjama down. ‘But none of my friends is married yet. Neither is his. Besides what marriage has to do with having children?’

It takes Olivia a few moments to comprehend that piece of information. Then she responds with a sigh ‘You might be right dear. What marriage has to do with having children?’

Then in a lower tone adds, ‘In my days — everything. Having children outside of marriage was enough to ruin not only mother’s life but that of the child’s as well.’

She walks slowly with the help of a walking frame to the living room where Lara helps her to settle in her favorite couch.

Olivia asks Lara to hand her a decorated brown wooden box from the dresser. It has a pile of old photographs. Slowly she reaches to the bottom of the box to pull out an envelope with a black and white photo of a young man. She looks at the photo with affection before handing it to Lara. A tall young man in casual pants and checker jumper is staring at the camera half leaning against a wall. He has an air of carefreeness about him.

‘I left marrying to him too late. I wasn’t sure. I thought we were too young. He went to war. Before leaving he came one last time. He wanted to go to the war as a married man. But I wasn’t so sure. He never came back.’

The photo has turned pale with time. Its edges have worn out with constant handling. Lara stares at the photo for a while. The young man in it looks very familiar. As if she has met him somewhere but couldn’t recall where.

‘Did he die in the war?’ she asks knowing Aunt Olivia was not married.

‘He went missing. I kept waiting that one day, he will come back.’

‘You didn’t find anyone else?’

‘I got too old.’ Aunt Olivia lets out a laugh. ‘First I was too young and then I was too old. Some came forward, but I was looking for him in them. Obviously, there was no one like him.’

Lara looks up and Aunt Olivia holds her gaze. ‘There is an age to get married. My mother used to say and I didn’t listen to her. She said that if you miss that age, marriage has no charm.’

Lara nods and gets up to leave, the photo still in her hand. She asks Aunt Olivia if she can borrow it.

Aunt Olivia gives her consent with her eyes closed. Suddenly she is too tired, either from all the effort she has put in this morning or from the flood of memories.

Two days later Aunt Olivia hears a knock at the door. It is not her day for a shower and her younger niece has brought the food for the week already. Who can it be?Before she can shuffle to the door, the key turns and the door opens. Lara walks in followed by a young man.

‘Aunt Olivia, I would like you to meet my boyfriend, Alex.’

There is no mistake in the resemblance. The face, the eyes, the shape of the jaw, even the color of the hair is the same. Only that her John was a bit fairer. This young man is darker, perhaps from working in the sun. Aunt Olivia runs her hand on his face with tears clouding her eyes. While Olivia is inspecting Alex, Lara goes out to help someone else come through the door.

‘Aunt Olivia, this is Alex’s father.’ I drove to Braidwood yesterday to bring him here.’

Stands before her, a man slightly older than her. He is still tall. His shoulders still broad. His skin still fair. The face which is forever young in her memory in fact has aged. But it is still the same face. They don’t know how long they stand there looking at each other, not believing what they were seeing, unaware of the presence of others. Then Aunt Olivia breaks the silence.

‘I waited for you.’ She says.

‘Do you think you are ready now?’ John asks.

That week minister performs two weddings, one in the church and one in Aunt Olivia’s living room.

© Neera Mahajan July 2014

Photo by Damir Bosnjak on Unsplash

The Path of Least Resistance


Last month I announced my first course and launched it on social media (if you can call sending out one post on social media a launch).

I have been blogging for two and half years now, have a decent number of followers on Medium, Substack, and LinkedIn; I should write and sell courses and make money by now. That’s what I was thinking.

That thinking came from all the stuff I am reading from the Internet gurus. Almost everyone writing on the big platform seems to teach that you should establish yourself on a platform, build an email list, and start selling courses.

But what if you don’t want to. What if making money online is not your objective. It wasn’t mine when I started blogging two and a half years ago. Then I got sucked in by all the free advice available on the internet.

Until about last week, when I sat down to figure out why I felt uncomfortable with running the course due next week.

That is when I wrote down the reason I started writing in the first place. Here they are:

  1. To get better at expressing myself.
  2. To share my insights.
  3. To overcome my fear of publishing. 
  4. To tell my story.
  5. To leave a legacy.

It was not my intention to launch another career. Rather I want to devote my remaining life learning to write better, making friends with like-minded people, and have something to feel excited about.

Online writing is providing me all that. Then why am I getting into the rat race of running courses? 

Enough people are doing that, and some of them are much more experienced than me. 

I need to keep doing what I am doing and enjoy the journey. I have nothing to prove, either to myself or to anybody else.

As soon as I realized that, a ton of weight lifted from my chest.


It is not the first time I have chosen the wrong path. 

And it is not the last. 

What is important at times like these is to watch out for cues. 

I have a quote that sits on my pinboard to guide me whenever I feel uncomfortable with a decision. 

I must have decided wrongly because I am not at peace, I made the decision myself but I can also decide otherwise because I want to feel at peace. I do not feel guilty because the Universe will undo all the consequences of my wrong decision if I will let it. I chose to tell it and allow it to decide for me. — Anonymous


Following the Path of Least Resistance

I have discovered that we have always pushing ourselves to do more.

We think it must be the right thing because everybody is doing it. Keeping with the Johns has become our way of life whether we need it or not. 

What I am finding is, if we leave the things to follow their natural course, we will reach the right decision in due time.

This is something that Robert Fritz tried to describe in his 1984 book The Path Of Least Resistance.

You are like a river. You go through life taking the path of least resistance. We all do — all human beings and all of nature. It is important to know that. You may try to change the direction of your own flow in certain areas of your life — your eating habits, the way you work, the way you relate to others, the way you treat yourself, the attitudes you have about life. And you may even succeed for a time. But eventually, you will find you return to your original behavior and attitudes. This is because your life is determined, insofar as it is a law of nature for you to take the path of least resistance. — Robert Fritz, The Path of Least Resistance.

That is true for all of us. 

Although self-improvement literature has been telling us, “The path of least resistance is the path of the losers” (H. G. Wells) and “The path of least resistance leads to crooked rivers and crooked men,” (Henry David Thoreau), it is the path of nature. 

Besides, who wants the rivers to run straight anyway.

I have spared myself a lot of grief by following my nature and have opened myself to a lot more possibilities. 

“If you limit your choice only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.” ― Robert Fritz, The Path of Least Resistance.


I might run courses one day. I might do online webinars, seminars, and summits one day. But at the moment, they are not the right thing for me to devote my energy to. 

That decision gives me peace.

If you, too, are not at peace with anything in your life right now, use your right to change that decision and let the universe make it right for you. Follow the path of least resistance and trust it will lead you to the right decision.

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What I Learned About Being Vulnerable Online This Week

I read four articles this week that touched on the theme of vulnerability. I want to summarise them here and the lesson learned from them.

The first one was, This Tip Will Revolutionize Your Online Writing, by Vishnu*s Virtues, who wrote if your articles are not connecting with your audience, they are missing one important ingredient — your personal experiences.

Vishnu discovered, quite accidentally, that when he started talking about his most difficult and painful life experiences (including a breakup that eventually led to divorce), he started getting more engagement from readers.

His message is that if you are not comfortable sharing your life, your writing won’t stand out.

Your unique life story and personal experiences are the differentiators when it comes to writing online. — Vishnu’s Virtues

Talking about difficult things can not only be therapeutic but also helps other people on the same journey.

But exposing yourself online is not an easy thing to do. We don’t know who will be reading our work and how they will use the information. Will we be judged?

Many writers on Medium go deep into their personal lives, talking about their difficult upbringing, dysfunctional families, relationships, and mental health challenges. But all of us can’t do it.

Yet, if we want to write, we will have to learn to intertwine our stories with our writing.

How can we do that?

How can we be vulnerable in front of complete strangers?

The answer came in the next article. Allie Volpe explained vulnerability in The Next Time Someone Asks How You Are, Be A Little Vulnerable.

She referred to social researcher and writer Brene Brown’s work on studying connections, where she found that in order to bond, we must allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability can range from asking for what you really need in a relationship, being in a position where you could be rejected or criticized professionally or personally, or exposing yourself emotionally.

Being vulnerable is hard. Brown found that people often shift to numbness, blame, and perfection in order to shelve those feelings of discomfort. We put up a tough exterior.

But studies show we actually perceive acts of vulnerability — such as admitting a mistake or revealing romantic feelings — as strength in others but weakness within ourselves.

We typically don’t confide our deepest thoughts with those closest to us.

Allie refers to Harvard professor Mario Luis Small’s research. He found that people regularly disclose to those they don’t feel emotionally attached to, such as doctors or co-workers, mostly because they’re experts in a particular area or are physically there when something important comes up.

If have no problem being vulnerable to strangers then why can’t we open up to those we are close to.

Tom Kuegler shed light on that in his article — Afraid Friends Will Read Your Writing? Here’s Why That’s Ridiculous.

The biggest fear we have is that if we expose ourselves (or our friends and family) in our writing, they might read it and not like what they read.

Tom’s argument is that 99.99% of the time our family will not read what we write.

Why?

Because we are not the center of their universe. Nobody from our personal life cares about what we type into our laptop late at night and post on Medium the next day.

People can barely keep their own lives straight. They don’t have time to sit down and read whenever we publish something new.

If they do, and don’t like what they read Tom has just the quote for them:

“If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.” — Anne Lamott

Then I read the article that showed how to be vulnerable in your writing.

Donnette Anglin wrote a story, Never Be Afraid to Re-introduce Yourself, which probably would have taken all the courage she had to put herself out there. Yet she did it gracefully and tenderly.

Not only did she put herself out there and shared her darkest secret, but the valuable lesson it taught her. Her story could be a true inspiration for many. That’s what sharing your vulnerability does. It makes you a hero and helps others to learn from your experiences.

Photo by Ava Sol on Unsplash

The Flight – A Short Story

[This is the first of a series of short stories I am going to share on my site]

I picked up my book and picnic basket from the car and headed for a quiet corner of the park where I could sit and read. I have been doing that often lately.

My days have more hours in them than the chores, and I have been trying to pass the time by reading books I have been putting aside to read for a long time. But even reading doesn’t help me take away my mind from what I have been trying to forget.

I spread the checkered rug on a green patch of grass under a gum tree. Sun rays were filtering down through the canopy of leaves. I placed the picnic basket on the side and poured myself a cup of tea from the thermos. Fumbling with one hand, I opened the book and started reading from where I had left it before.

I read for some time but realized nothing had gone in. Closing the book, I lay down on the rug looking at the sky. Occasional clouds were drifting aimlessly against the light blue horizon. A row of pine trees edging the park boundary looked dejected. What has got into me! I need to get out of this miserable state! I knew that, but I didn’t know-how.

I got startled by someone’s cough and sat down. A book lying on my chest fell on the rug when I turned around to face the intruder.

“I am sorry,” an old, hunched man with a walking stick got embarrassed, “I didn’t mean to scare you like this.”

“It is all right.” I sat up on the rug facing him. He was a medium height man, seemed to be in his eighties, and dressed in brown trousers and a loose jumper. He probably came to this park often, and I was perhaps the one invading his territory.

“I wonder if you have some water. I forgot to have my blood pressure medicine this morning.” He reached into his shirt pocket from the neck of his jumper and produced a leaf of tablets.

“Yes. Sure.” I took out the water bottle and plastic cup from the basket and poured him some water.

“Thank you,” he said, taking the glass from my hand. He swallowed the tablet with the water and handed the cup back to me, asking, “Do you mind if I sit down here for a while. My blood pressure drops after taking the medication.

“Sure,” I made some space on the rug for him, and he sat on it with the help of his stick.

“You might need to help me get up.” He muttered, “It is easier to sit than to get up at my age.”

“No problem.” Any other time I would have regretted his presence, but today I was craving for human company.

We started chatting. He lived nearby. His wife had passed away a couple of years ago. Both his kids, a son, and a daughter, were married and lived at the opposite ends of Australia, one in Perth other in Cairns. Each year he visited them–one trip to the east coast and the other to the west coast. This way crossed the whole breadth of the country each year.

“Imagine how many frequent flyers points I earn.”

I smiled.

“My wife and I used to come to this park each evening for a walk. I can still feel her presence in the air when I come here. This was her favorite spot. We would bring our checkered rug, same as yours, and have breakfast here some mornings. When I saw you today sitting here, I had to talk to you.”

“I am glad you did.”

“My name is John.” He extended his hand.

“I am Jaya,” I said and shook his hand. He was pretty formal in his mannerism.

We chatted for some time afterward. I helped John get up, and he went for a walk around the park. He waved me goodbye before walking to his house. I started coming to the park often. As if watching from his window, John would also come soon after. We starting taking walks together, just like he and his wife used to. He was a sweet old man, and I didn’t mind his company. He told me stories from his past. His passion for his wife was clear from the way he described the things they did together.

***

One such day, after the walk, when we were resting on a bench, he suddenly said, “Enough.”

“Enough what, John?” I asked, wondering what was bothering him.

“Enough of your silence. You are a young woman who has plenty of life in front of you. What is bothering you? I can tell it is a lost love.”

I looked at him, surprised at the transparency of my demeanor. Was I still an open book. He was right. I have spent too long running from reality. I have to face it one day. Somehow it felt right to face it with John.

“I had everything a woman of my age and culture could desire,” I began looking at the white line that an airplane was creating across the horizon, “A husband, a son, a daughter, and a job in the publishing world.”

John followed my gaze and discovered the airplane just before it disappeared behind the pine trees. “What happened,” he asked.

“Last year, we went to India for a holiday.”

He listened without interrupting.

“On the way back, the plane was overbooked. They asked if we wanted to have a stopover at the airline’s expense.”

John turned so that he can see my face better.

“We were delighted at the opportunity, but then I remembered that I needed to be at the launch of a new book my company was publishing. I asked if there was one seat available.”

John said nothing.

“Next day, when I was launching the book, they put my children and husband were on Flight MH370.”

John put his arm around me.

Another airplane passed across the sky. This time we didn’t look up.

© Neera Mahajan Aug 2015

Photo by Philip Myrtorp on Unsplash

So You Made A Mistake, now what?


In mid-1990, Amy Edmondson, a doctoral student, had a hypothesis — the good and effective teams of doctors and nurses make fewer medication-related mistakes.

Her research was a part of a bigger project that aimed to reduce medicine-related errors in hospitals. 

To prove her point, she created a diagnostic survey. Over the next six months, she and many other medical researchers interviewed several hospital departments and logged their medical errors. 

After six months, when she ran her analysis, she found that her hypothesis was torn to shreds. The data showed that better teams made more errors.

Frustrated and second-guessing herself, she hired another researcher to dig in deeper. 

Do you know what they found? 

They found that better teams were not making more errors, they were just more open and unafraid to share their errors.

While ineffective teams were hiding their errors, better teams felt safe to share their errors. By sharing and learning from their errors, they were becoming even more effective.

Edmondson spent the next couple of decades researching the concept of psychological safety where organizations should create safe zones where employees could speak up without fear.


The same is true for people. 

The people who do well, whether it is in sports, work, business, profession, entrepreneurship, or life itself, are the people who acknowledge their mistakes, learn from them and become better as a consequence.

Successful people are not afraid of making mistakes. They realize mistakes are part of the learning process. 

Thomas Watson built IBM into a behemoth. Once, a subordinate of Watson had made a huge mistake. The mistake cost IBM $600,000. Watson was asked by the board if he would fire this person. And Watson famously replied: “Fire him? I just spent $600,000 training him. Why would I want anyone else to hire his experience?”

Life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from the worst mistakes.

I had a similar experience with an employee. Once during an interview, a candidate told me that when he just started his career he transferred thousands of dollars into various accounts thinking he was practicing in a test environment. Some of the money was never found. Since then he is very careful while working in the production environment.

The panel was horrified at his carelessness. Later, when we reflected on it, we realized two things. One, he owed his mistake and learned from it. Two, he was courageous enough to bring out in an interview, which meant he was honest, truthful, and not afraid of making mistakes. I hired him. He was one of my best employees. 

Our mistakes make us the person we become. Hide your mistakes or be afraid of the consequences, you will never become the person you can.


Keeping a log of mistakes.

Ray Dalio, a hedge fund manager, philanthropist, and author, created a mistake log at Bridgewater Associates. Every employee is required to log their mistakes so that other people can learn from them.

Making a mistake is not a fireable offense at Bridgewater Associates. But failing to log your mistakes is.

Creating a culture where everyone shares their mistakes accelerates the learning of the entire team. It’s one of the reasons why Bridgewater Associates is the biggest hedge fund in the world today.


Why are we reluctant to admit our mistakes?

Mistakes often put us in a disadvantageous position. They might lead us to physical or psychological danger. Many mistakes hurt our ego. How could I be so stupid to do this? 

We are afraid of the consequences. If I say I did it, they might fire me. Or I will never win the promotion.

Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons. They expose society to real danger. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing doctrine. Some communities and families are the same. From an early age, people learn to hide their mistakes. 

Humans have a history of handling mistakes and failure unpleasantly. Since each of us carries unpleasant memories of whole human history with us, it can be challenging to overcome the fear of sharing mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.


How to get over our mistakes?

The biggest problem with overcoming mistakes is the feeling of self-loathing.

Think back to the last mistake you made at work, even if it was a minor one, like showing up late at an important meeting or messing up a presentation or making a wrong assessment based on incomplete facts.

Once we realize our mistake, the disgust and contempt we feel break us into pieces. We can’t seem to overcome the fact how we could ever do that. 

The thing to remember in situations like these is — we are human after all. We can’t act all the time perfectly. We are bound to make mistakes. Admit you made a mistake. Think about what lesson it had for you. Make a note of that and then stop dwelling on it. 

Mistakes are not the same thing as failure. A failure results from doing a wrong action, whereas a mistake usually is just a wrong action. So, when you make a mistake, you can learn from it and fix it.


What to do when you make a mistake.

“When you make a mistake, there are only three things you should ever do about it: admit it, learn from it, and don’t repeat it.” — Paul Bear Bryant.

Admit it.

Don’t hide it, ever.

Don’t be scared of the consequences. If you hide your mistake, you will miss learning from them and make bigger mistakes while covering them. 

If you own your mistake, chances are your superiors will regard you highly for your truthfulness and courage.

Learn from it.

When we refuse to learn from our mistakes, we inflict unnecessary stress on ourselves and others. Mistakes are the best teachers in the world.

If you want to make the learning process faster, go ahead and make mistakes. Then make sure to learn from them. 

The greatest mistake you can ever make is not to make mistakes. 

Maria Hill lists 40 invaluable lessons to harness your mistakes for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives, which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Make invisible visible.

Don’t repeat it.

The last thing you need to do is make sure you don’t make the same mistake again. If you repeat the same mistake, it is no longer a mistake; it is a choice. 

Conclusion

We will continue to make mistakes. At work, in life, with parenting, with relationships—no need to be afraid of them. 

When you realize your mistake, figure out what lesson it had for you. Was it the lack of knowledge, skills, or something else? What led you to make that mistake? What were the emotions behind them?

Learning from mistakes is painful, but there is no other way.

If you are not making mistakes, that means you are not doing enough. 

Take chances, make mistakes. This is how you grow. 

Photo by krakenimages on Unsplash

100 Articles in 100 Days

Violinist Hilary Hahn started a 100 Days of Practice project. She posted a video of her practicing violin on Instagram for 100 days with #100daysofpractice and invited others to join her. That started a movement.

Austin Kleon (the writer of How To Steal Like an Artist) came up with a grid to log his progress for 100 days. He calls it PRACTICE to SUCK LESS grid. 

To get good, you first have to be willing to be bad. Don’t practice to get good, practice to suck less. — Austin Kleon.

I thought it was a brilliant idea. You can use it to improve your handwriting, sketching, writing, stamina, singing, or playing an instrument. I used it to get better at social media. 

I sucked at social media. My friends complained that I never posted anything or left comments on their posts. I used to think social media was for boring people who had nothing better to do with their time until I discovered its power to build your profile. 

At the start of 2021, I set myself a goal to publish on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. for 100 days consecutively. It was an extremely successful experiment. Not only, I built my profile and learned heaps about the platforms, but my follower number swelled as well. 

Today is the Day 96 of the experiment. Here is the scorecard.

Image by Author

I missed only two days. Those were busy days, but if I had planned, I would have been able to publish on those days as well.

So pleased I am with the growth that consistency brought that I decided to use it with writing articles.

I have wanted to write every day on Medium for some time now but wasn’t successful. The closest I have come to publishing 4 articles in a row.

My rational is, if I can do it on social media, I can do it on Medium too.

Each article doesn’t have to be 1000–1500 words long; it could be 300 words. All stories don’t have to be non-fiction, it could be fiction too.

“Lower your standards for what counts as progress and you will be less paralyzed by perfectionism.” — Adam Grant

What is the aim?

To get better. 

To bring the article writing time down from 5–6 hours to 1–2 hours.

To build a system to publish every day. 

Writing an article a week is harder than writing an article a day. 

Initially, I will not worry about whether my headlines are good enough or not, whether I need more research more or my article is plain right boring. Initially, I am going to aim at publishing every day.

I agree with Tim Denning when he wrote:

It frustrates me because so much time is spent agonizing over tiny grammar mistakes, whether a headline is clickbait, and the attributes of viral writing. All of it misses the point: who cares?

Write what you want to write. You do you.

Being yourself is the most profitable business idea I can think of when it comes to any form of online content creation.

I think the reason we don’t get out and achieve because we try to do what other people are doing. We forget to be us. To do what we do.

So I am going to write what I want to write, and in the process going to learn what works for me.

My strategy to succeed.

Build a system and hone it over next three months.

Desire is what gets you started; system is what makes you deliver.

Most of my articles come to me when I am reading other people’s articles. A single line might trigger a thought which becomes a full-blown article. I might agree with them or disagree with them.

I stop reading at that point and start jotting down my thoughts. If I am on the computer, I create a new draft on Medium; if not, I do it on the phone, notebook, or back of an envelope.

I write nonstop until I have penned down everything that comes to me without worrying about structuring them or even rationalizing them. Before leaving it, I make a note if I need to do any research for anything.

Each morning, after breakfast, I pick one of the drafts and start the research. While researching the angle and structure of the article start taking shape.

I work in several 15 minutes spurts, taking breaks to do housework in between. By lunchtime, my article is done. I leave it for two hours and cook lunch.

When I come back to it, I read it slowly, make final edits and publish it between four and five pm.

I write at least ten articles ideas a day in my Idea Journal; hence I am never short of ideas. My goal is to get to the point when I can write an article on any topic with little or no research.

I intent to publish at least one fictional story and one travel article each week giving enough variety to my readers.

I also intend to have a few articles as a backup for days when I can get to the computer (a lesson learned from publishing on social media).

And lastly I will do many things in bulk such as inserting the images, footer and sketches etc.

Where to publish?

My biggest challenge is how to get published the same day. Many publications take one to three weeks to publish stories.

The Ascent takes more than a week. World Travelers Blog takes 4–5 days. Data Driven Investor takes 1–2 days. Illumination has been the best so far. Dr Mehmet Yildiz has been publishing my stories within few hours of submission. 

While researching for it I found a brilliant article by Michael ‘Myk Eff’ Filimowicz, PhD. Michael suggests four ways to get your stories into Medium publications:

The Front Door: The Front Door is when a publication has a big sign hanging on their site basically saying, ‘Open for Business!’ it’s the easiest, most direct, clearest, and obvious method.

The Back Door: The Back Door is Smedian. Smedian is a publication created by Casey Botticello, a top Medium writer to demystify writing on Medium. It has a list of all Medium publications with the ‘Request to Contribute’ link. You can look for publications by using its search tool.

The Side Entrance: Believe it or not, some publications, particularly Medium’s own publication, do not a SUBMIT tab on its front end or a ‘Request to Contribute’ button on its Smedian back end. Literally Literary publication is like that. To submit to publications like it, you have to do a web search, and the submission guidelines will appear in one of their many past online stories. This might be irrelevant now as E V William has disbanded Medium publication. 

VIP Lane: This is when a publication owner invites you to submit your story to their publication. You receive a notification like this, “Hey, we love this story; we’d like to publish it.”

This is my favourite kind of publishing strategy. 

I am going to publish some of the stories on my profile and then wait for an invitation from the publications.

It gives you become-so-good-that-they-come-to-you kind of feeling.

In the end

Wish me luck and join the challenge if you wish.