Five rules to overcome self-doubt
I have often bemoaned over the writer’s self-doubt. Why of all the other vocations in the world, writers suffer from self-doubt the most. It is not because they toil at their craft any less than other artists.
Why is it that we feel so inadequate, frivolous, phony and unaccomplished? Why do we feel our ideas are insignificant; our vocabulary limited, our expression plain?
No writer, doesn’t matter how many books he has written, has ever reported to fully get rid of it.
Stephen King wrote in On Writing:
I have spent a good many years—too many, I think—being ashamed about what I write. I kept hearing Miss Hisler asking why I wanted to waste my talent, why I wanted to waste my time, why I wanted to write junk. I think I was forty before I realised that almost every writer of fiction and poetry who has ever published a line has been accused by someone of wasting his or her God-given talent.
Neil Gaiman talked about it in Commencement Speech at the University of the Arts Class of 2012
The problems of success can be harder because nobody warns you about them.
The first problem of any kind of even limited success is the unshakable conviction that you are getting away with something, and that any moment now, they will discover you. It’s Impostor Syndrome—something my wife Amanda christened the Fraud Police.
In my case, I was convinced that there would be a knock on the door, and a man with a clipboard (I don’t know why he carried a clipboard, in my head, but he did) would be there to tell me it was all over, and they had caught up with me, and now I would have to go and get a real job, one that didn’t consist of making things up and writing them down, and reading books I wanted to read. And then I would go away quietly and get the kind of job where you don’t get to make things up anymore.
The counterfeit innovator is wildly self-confident. The real one is scared to death.
In her novel, Orlando: A Biography Virginia Woolf captures beautifully the anguishing self-doubt with which all writers tussle with:
Anyone moderately familiar with the rigours of composition will not need to be told the story in detail; how he wrote and it seemed good; read and it seemed vile; corrected and tore up; cut out; put in; was in ecstasy; in despair; had his good nights and bad mornings; snatched at ideas and lost them; saw his book plain before him and it vanished; acted people’s parts as he ate; mouthed them as he walked; now cried; now laughed; vacillated between this style and that; now preferred the heroic and pompous; next the plain and simple; now the vales of Tempe; then the fields of Kent or Cornwall; and could not decide whether he was the divinest genius or the greatest fool in the world.
The self- doubt is the worst enemy of writers, a familiar state for all those who put pieces of their inner lives into the outside world.
Determination allows for doubt and for humility — both of which are critical.Anna Deavere Smith in Letters to a Young Artist
If this is the case, then we writers, need to learn to live with self-doubt, rather than to play hide and seek with it. We ought to embrace it and find ways to work with it.
I have developed five rules to write with confidence and joy even when self-doubt is holding me back.
1. Concentrate On The Verb Rule
The word ‘writer‘ is tricky. It is both a noun and a verb. Most of the time we get stuck with the noun and forget the verb. The fact is that it is the verb that matters the most. If you can concentrate on the verb, the noun will materialize by itself.
Also, don’t mix up the word ‘writer’ with the words ‘author’. A writer is someone who writes, an author is someone who has published something. Think of yourself as a ‘writer’ not as an ‘author’. It is the former that will make you the later.
Writing is finally about one thing: going into a room alone and doing it.— William Goldman
2. Retire The Judge rule
The judge is the inner critic that resides in you. He comes uninvited to critique your work and always find faults in it. Even if others are raving about how good your work is, he will negate them and pinpoint the faults. He has been working tirelessly all his life, giving judgments. It is time he retires. The way to retire him is to buy him a gold watch for his services and send him home to play with his grandchildren.
In the meantime, you double and triple your writing efforts. If you are writing once a month, write once a week; if you are writing once a week, write once a day. The more often you write, the less daunting it becomes. The prolific writing is the only way to outperform the overworking inner critic.
Bad writers tend to have the self-confidence, while the good ones tend to have self-doubt.Charles Bukowski
3. Get it done rule
Elizabeth Gilbert gave the famous words in her book The Big Magic, “done is better than good.”
If you keep on waiting it to be perfect it will never be done. If it is 80% there it is good enough.
No book, or a story or an article is ever finished, you just stop working on it.
So give it your best for the day and let it go to the universe. If it is good it will survive, if not it will meet its fate. Meanwhile, you are free to write another one.
4. The Pimple Rule
This one is borrowed from Jon Bard of Write it Done. She named this after the best advice she received as a spotty teenager – “No one cares about your pimples because they’re too busy worrying about their own.”
It’s so true in every aspect of life. We think that people are out there ready to pounce when, in reality, they’re more terrified of being pounced upon.
We’ve met some big-time writers who tell us that even as they prepare to publish their fiftieth book or collect another prize, they still have a voice inside that wonders when everyone will catch on to the fact that they’re frauds. Yep, that little nagging “you don’t deserve it” voice never goes away, even in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
If you view the outside world as a place filled with vultures ready to swoop down and pick at your bones, it’s time to rethink things. The truth is this – all those scary would-be haters are too busy scanning the skies for vultures of their own to bother with you.
5. Nothing is original Rule
One thing that self-doubt instills in us that our work is not original. That we are copying and imitating what we are reading from others.
Tell your self-doubt that there is nothing original. Everything that has been created so far in this universe is from some kind of inspiration from something else that existed before it. Imitation and copying are part of the learning process.
Take the pressure off you by not trying to be original and learn from your idols. Even they learned by imitating and copying their idols. This is what Neil Gaiman, an English author of fiction and nonfiction, said in his commencement speech at the University of the Arts, to the class of 2012.
When you are at it, making your art, doing the stuff that only you can do, the urge to copy will start to emerge. That is not a bad thing. Most of us find our voices only after we have sounded a lot like other people. But the one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw, and build and play, and dance and live like only you can. The moment when you feel, that just possibly, you are walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists inside you, showing too much of yourself, that is the moment you start to get it right.
Listen to his full talk in the video below.
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