Seeing the world with new eyes

This week I celebrated my last birthday in my fifties. Rather than feeling old, dejected, and “under-the-age”, I felt as if I am back in my teen years.

Once again I am exploring myself. Who am I? What do I want to do? What can I learn? What can I give back to the universe?

Once again I am seeing the world around me with fresh eyes. I am finding the world is not as frightening and enigmatic as used to be in my teen years and all through the twenties and thirties when I was struggling. It is magnificent and diverse. It has so much to offer no matter at what level you are and which place you come from. You just need to open your arms to receive.

Once again I have a child-like fascination towards life and the gifts it has to
offer. I am discovering new passions literary each day. Each morning I can’t
wait to get out of the bed to try new things.

All this time my children and my nephews and nieces are hailing me. Encouraging me to keep going. To keep trying. Keep discovering. They are taking the role of my parents who used to boast my childhood successes. It feels so good to explore new talents in me. The fire is on. The passion unbound.

If there is one insight I can give to those who feel trapped in jobs or life, as I used to just a couple of years ago, just hang on to your dream. One day you too will make your dream a reality.

This week I wrote four articles. They are small and easy reads full of actionable advice.

Get that monkey off your back

I finally sent the book to the editor. And I had the rare opportunity to bask in the afterglow of finishing a project I have been working on for weeks now.

This “completion elation” surprised me a little. I was not working on it all the time. After the first week had passed, and I had compiled most of the material, it was hard to stay focused on it. The initial energy of the idea had gone. I wanted to do everything else but the project on hand.

I am becoming more and more convinced that in today’s age of too many choices (and distractions), we should finish any project as quickly as possible. There are too many new things all the time demanding our attention.

We spend too much time on a project because we want a certain degree of perfection. But often, perfection leads to procrastination.

Completion of something permits you to choose something else to take its place. That is why it is so important to finish that thing that you have started or had been on your list for a long time.

Procrastination not only fills you with guilt and self-loathing but also denies you the opportunity to move on other fun things that come next.

Get that monkey off your back.

Here is what you can do. Pick one thing that you have been postponing or slogging away for some time. Use the WOOP technique (Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, and Plan) to identify those obstacles and plan how to overcome those. Then forge ahead with new momentum. Finish it as quickly as you can.

Don’t aim for perfection, Go for completion.

Sprint Writing

I recently came across a writing exercise that I found very benefiting.

Chris Fox talks about it in his book “5000 Words Per Hour.” He calls it writing sprints.

A writing sprint is a pre-defined length of time when you do nothing but write. It has a start-time and an end-time. And while you are writing you will do nothing else but write. No answering the phone, no research on the web, no checking the mail. Not even going to the bathroom. All those things need to happen before you sit down to start the sprint.

Once the sprint has started your fingers should fly across the keyboard. You can’t stop until the time is over. You do not go back and edit or even correct the spelling. You keep going until the buzzer goes off.

The goal of the sprint is to get into the flow state where brain naturally starts focusing on writing and exclude everything else. It is like silencing the left brain (the logical brain) and letting the right brain to take over. For most people, these sudden bursts of flow are unpredictable and elusive.

Writing sprint help get into a flow state on command.

It allows cranking more words than we think is possible.

The way to get started on writing sprint is with micro-sprints. Just five minutes.

Just focus on writing a small article. Or one scene.

It is like training for a marathon but starting running for just five minutes.

Five minutes is the most important. You are not going to stop writing before the five minutes are over. You are not going to correct spelling mistakes or grammatical errors. You are just going to type out the small article or the scene for five minutes.

Why?

Because the goal is quantity, not quality. You need to train yourself to generate a massive volume to test without editing it. You start with five minutes and then build it up to half an hour to forty-five minutes.

There are several advantages of this exercise.

  1. You learn to complete projects. A vast majority of writers don’t even finish a short story, let alone a novel or a book. Writing sprint propels you to the end of your project.
  2. You start seeing the common problems with your writing over and over again. You start correcting them mentally and your future drafts start getting better.
  3. You learn to structure your article or scene on the fly. Rather than starting clueless you give your piece a beginning, middle and end.

I wrote this article using this technique. Wrote it in five minutes and then spent another ten to correct the spelling mistakes and other errors. Not bad outcome for fifteen minutes.

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A simple repeatable system to write

Writing is an awfully hard vocation to stay committed to. Most new writers feel exhausted after a productive spell and leave it for too long. That makes getting back to writing very hard.

What we need is a simple, reliable, repeatable system to follow on daily basis.

Yesterday I was listening to Austin Kleon’s interview with Joanna Penn, and I liked his system of consistently producing art.

I carry around this pocket notebook with me all day and I just write down all my stupid ideas in there. And I draw things. And I’m just writing in this notebook all day. And then when the morning comes around after we get the kids to school and that kind of thing, I sit down and I have a diary that I work in.

I usually do something visual, so I’ll either do a collage, or I’ll do a drawing, or a comic, or something. And then I’ll fill three more pages of writing.

And that’s the time where I’m looking back on yesterday, but I’m also working on what I’m thinking and that kind of thing. And then after the diary is done for the day, usually there’s something in the diary that I want to turn into a blog post or I’ll think of a good blog post or something that I want to share on my blog.

And then I go over and I do the blog post. And that can be anything from like, ‘Oh, here’s this interesting book I read,’ or, ‘Here’s this interesting quote,’ or, ‘Here’s something I drew,’ or, ‘Here’s something I made,’ or, ‘Here’s a really long post about parenting,’ or something, whatever it is.

And then once I make the blog post for the day, I’m done in a sense, creatively, as far as the baseline. That’s the work that has to get done for the day. And I work that way every morning.

And then for the rest of the day, it really depends on what’s on the docket. Today I went for a walk and we’re doing this interview, and this afternoon I’ll probably do some stuff, and I have to pick up my kid blah, blah, blah.

But that’s the thing for me that Keep Going did was it helped me establish a repetitive, repeatable daily system for producing work. Because that for me has been the thing that I was really missing in my life was some sort of method to making work all the time.

Simple. And repeatable. Yet varied enough.

He got his system from David Sedaris. David Sedaris carries a notebook around all day, scribbling in it all day long. Even when he is picking up rubbish in the streets of his village near London (he does that five to six hours a day, every day). Then at the end of the day, he sits down and writes about whatever is interesting in the notebook in his diary.

And then when he does a show, he shares some of that diary writing, sees how people react to it, makes little marks in the margin on stuff. And then he turns those pieces into essays that become books.

So it’s this iterative process of generating material, putting it out in the world, seeing how people respond to it, and then repackaging it and then putting it back out. 

Simple and elegant.

Seth Godin writes a blog post everyday. He has been doing that for twenty years now and has more than 7000 uninterrupted posts. Most of his posts are small, and all of them are without any pictures. His books, too, come from his blog.

This is a scenario where quantity trumps the quality.

There’s a great story in Art & Fear that book by Ted Orland and David Bayles. There’s an example in there where there’s a pottery class and half the class is told to just make the best pot they can. And half the class is told just make as many pots as you can. And the people in the group who were told to make as many as they could, they ended up producing more better pots or better pots than the ones who were told to make the best pot.

A simple system will produce more work and better work overtime than no system and occasional good quality work.

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The final solution to the perpetual loop of “to be, or not to be.”

After being stuck in the house for seven months, we made an effort to go to the coast on the weekend with a couple of friends. Even that little break from the monotonous routine was enough to clear my head and have a new perspective on old problems.

I forever seem to be faced with one dilemma or another. A perpetual loop of the famous Shakespearean conundrum “to be, or not to be.” It keeps taking different forms. To do this or that. To continue with this or to start something new. To follow the routine or to be spontaneous. The questions appear mammothal in the four walls of the house, but as soon as you get out in the open, they become trivial and futile.

But the best advice to make decisions came from Oliver Burkeman’s last column for The Guardian:

When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness. I’m indebted to the Jungian therapist James Hollis for the insight that major personal decisions should be made not by asking, “Will this make me happy?”, but “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” We’re terrible at predicting what will make us happy: the question swiftly gets bogged down in our narrow preferences for security and control. But the enlargement question elicits a deeper, intuitive response. You tend to just know whether, say, leaving or remaining in a relationship or a job, though it might bring short-term comfort, would mean cheating yourself of growth. (Relatedly, don’t worry about burning bridges: irreversible decisions tend to be more satisfying, because now there’s only one direction to travel – forward into whatever choice you made.)

Oliver Burkeman in The eight secrets to fairly fulfilled life

I wish I had known this a few years ago. It would have saved a lot of agonies. Not that I have chosen happiness over enlargement in the past, but I would have had the framework and that would have made the decision-making process less painful.

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Putting things into perspective

I am reading The Lightkeeper’s Wife, a novel by a Canberra author Karen Viggers. A gripping story, beautifully written. I am reading it slowly, savoring every bit of it. But the problem is that the book belongs to the public library and is due back this week. I can’t even renew it because eleven people have reserved it after me. I could have easily finished the book in four weeks had it not for the countless other distractions.

This week I came to the realisation that I am doing everything else except what I want to do. I am reading everything else except what I want to read. I am writing everything else except what I want to write.

Neil Gaiman writes in Make Good Art:

“There was a day when I looked up and realised that I had become someone who professionally replied to an email, and who wrote as a hobby. I started answering fewer emails, and was relieved to find I was writing much more.”

I can either be on top of social media or read good books. I can either write long well-researched articles or finish my novel. I can’t do both, that is for sure. For a long time, I foolishly believed that I was that superwoman who can do both. But my energy doesn’t come from kryptonite. I am a mere mortal whose eyes get extremely tired after a few hours on the computer. I need to make sure I invest those hours wisely into things that matter most.

We writers need to protect our writing time fiercely. Unless we are living alone in country property, we will struggle to find time to write.

On Monday, I spent two hours editing the first five chapters of the non-fiction book I am writing. It felt terrific. I set myself a goal of finishing the edit by Friday and sending it to a professional editor and proofreader. I am on target to do that.

Also, this week I spent “15 Radical Minutes” with another Medium writer, Matt Inman. It is great to know other writers and what is driving them. I have invited two other authors and waiting for their response.

His week, I managed to write two articles – How new writers should use Quora, and Goal Setting With WOOP. I also managed to published Three Principles of Personal Storytelling in Medium. I have been invited by two more magazines in Medium to write for them.

That is it from me this week folks.

I will write to you again next Friday.

Until then take care.